Sometimes its the littlest things

[little-red]

I am a busy, hyper, talkative worrier. I know D/s-M is right for me because I finally know peace. I give everything to Mr. Wolf, he takes all my troubles and fears, and doubts and gives back to me what I need to focus on. He has made me a better wife, mother, and sub.

Everynight since we started our journey we stop our hectic vanilla ways, lay together forget all the days distractions and just be. I give him my everything, I empty my mind and body and hand it over to him, palms up, kneeling only with my collar on. He takes me, leads me, guides me, cherishes and honors me, and fills me with what I need.

The only time I am truly at peace is in his arms, then and only then am I able to breathe.

P.s. when he hears my deep breath and sigh, he knows I am at peace. I am so blessed to have such a wonderful husband and Dom!

[her-hero]

From the Dom side, I know that D/s is working for me personally because I have more confidence in myself than ever. I don’t spend time questioning myself like I used to. Partly, this is because I have so much more trust in our relationship. Our communication makes it is much easier to trust that my love will let me know what is important to her. The increased communication between us is phenomenal. It tells me that our D/s is making a difference, not just for me, but for both of us.

Her Hero

[Unknown Member]

I’ve been with my Sir 33 yrs married 29 yrs. In the last year since Sir and I started D/s we have found out that it’s the little things that we do for each other that has more meaning to each of us. They are things that you are not asked to do or made to do or sometimes expected to do, they are done out of love and respect for one another. Sir and I communicate with respect, honesty and openness in everything that we do. We didn’t do this in our later years in our vanilla marriage. We lost doing the little things for one another in transition as our marriage changed into a immaterial married partnership. In our later years we would talk to each other without truly listening to the meaning of what we said to each other, we never noticed when either one of us did something for each other. It was like there wasn’t enough time or it wasn’t important enough to pay attention. Since D/s that all has changed, I write in my journal about those little things because they are the important things and mean more to me than the larger things. It means your Dom/sub took time out to do it specifically for you because they love and care about your wants and needs and that there world evolves around you. The little things that you do for each other shows that you each are committed to your roles and to the relationship with love and respect for each other. And as the D/s relationship grows those little things become habit with meaning and without even thinking about doing them…. you just do it. Why…. because you want to and need to do them and it makes your heart,mind,soul and body for-filled. IT MAKES YOU STRONGER AS A PERSON AND AT PEACE WITH YOURSELF!

Lt♥

[bliss-aka-mr-grants-muffin]

They say “timing” is everything. I just became a member this weekend and started looking at the forums today when I found this post. I literally got goosebumps! What is so odd is that this past Sunday in church the sermon was on the Glue that holds a Marriage together. It was an excellant sermon and one of the keys points he preached on was “the little things”. He told a story of a couple who was having problems so the wife decided they each needed an “issue” box and everyday at the end of the day they were supposed to list out the issues they had with their spouse that day. At the end of the month, they exchanged boxes. The husband opened his and read the dozens of things he had done that caused his wife issues. The wife then took her turn opening the box and found 30 slips of paper each one reading “I loved you when I first met you, I love now and I will always love you.” Wow, can you imagine the guilt she must have felt! My take away was we can focus on the “little things” that annoy us or we can chose to focus on the “little things” that show love and caring. Either way it is a choice of where we focus our thoughts. I am chosing to focus on those important “little things” that can become the glue to keep our marriage strong!

[Kaninchen]

What are the little things that make you realize that D/s is truly right for you?
The little things that make me realize that D/s is right for me is………
First, I made this whole site because I love the D/s dynamic and I know D/s is inside me always now. I love the foundation of honest communication. I love to hear everyone’s stories and their experiences… It really warms my heart. <3

Another thing is if I feel like things are slipping then I feel my heart ache soo deep I want to fall on my knees and ask my Sir how I can fix it. I can't hardly breath .... like a fish out of water.

When my Sir and I are growing we feed off one another and I can feel that pull between us. It's so strong and I feel like I can conquer the world. I please him... He smiles at me.... WOW... I know!

Thanks LP... for that question... HUGS LK