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Shark Week, Red Mad Fish, Period, mensturation & D|s-M
I got a question or comment in the chat today and thought it to be a great topic to post in here! It’s ‘shark week’ the dreaded red tide. I had a humiliating intro to menstruation from the jump not helped by an abusive ex who literally convinced that I am dirty and disgusting while bleeding. We have tried unsuccessfully for years to get me past this….but that was before D/s-M. This week we are changing the way I experience this week. It’s a work in progress but it’s still humiliating and terrifying to me 18 years later that I’ll see that same look of disgust on my my Sir’s face. I’m hoping to change that with his guidance and reassurance. What say you?
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Mr Fox and I had sex before D|s-M during the lightest days that I would have. Full on blood play was never our thing… well it is now but not Mad red Fish Blood! Having a full on crime scene is not fun cleaning up… but I think if you go slow, do like the last days, the lightest, it helps. Usually those first few days having vaginal sex doesn’t feel the greatest… I say talk a lot and small steps, if it doesn’t feel right then NO BIG DEAL… You and your Sir decide what’s right for you and no one else. Take that power back… What you do with your body… you decide. The X has no power anymore, don’t give it to him.
HUGS!
LK
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I had a not so great intro to menstruation when I was young. Its was not talked about and hidden. So when Sir came along that is just how I treated it. I stayed away from him and hid. I was embarrassed and thought it was horrible. Ds-m changed that for me. As I became more open and those vanilla wall came down I couldn’t hide any more. I found out Sir wasn’t disgusted by it. He was more than happy to jump into the shower during Sharkweek. I have to say he is even a little smug when its close to that time and he “breaks me” a day early. It’s funny that this topic came up as it was only yesterday that I thought I was done and Sir proved I was not. I thought to myself how lucky I was that he was not one of those guys that are bothered or grossed out by it. Maybe I should thank him.
Long story short, it was a fear I over came, it took me awhile to be that open with my Sir but it was worth the work. I wish you much love and happiness in your journey. 🤗
Jsbunny
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Before D/s-M we would not have sex during shark week. He just never seemed comfortable with the whole idea, but i was also very closed off during that week. I always hated how emotional i got and controlling those outburst was almost impossible. So the entire week was just a bad time. Now i dont know why things have changed but they have. SiM can’t keep his hands off me during shark week. During the heavy flow days we dont have sex, but we do everything else. Now as it is getting less all bets are off. He now loves having sex with me even though i’m not totally done. It has been an amazing change for us.
i.am.His
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This was never an issue for us. Before kids, i was always so very ill during this time that He just cared for me; gave me the pain pills and heating pad, wiped my face when i threw up, and kept me hydrated. My cycle normalized a little after kids, but i was still very ill during it. Then about 10 years ago we found the Mirena iud, and now there isn’t anything to get in the way, lol!
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We don’t do anything the first few days but that is only because:
1: it is very painful/total lack of feeling
2: I all around am not myself and feel awful those days
As I have gotten older, that is when things changed…we used to have sex no matter what when I was in my late 20’s/early 30’s.
Mr. Cain has never made me feel like it is gross or that I am unclean. It is purely a “I can’t do it” thing. We will still have sex after the horrid first few days.
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What a great question. For Sir and I, we don’t really stop our activity for this week. Sir gives me a spanking on my hardest night to relax me and put me to bed early since I tend to be very tired during the week. But as far as sexual activity I don’t have much desire answer is more considerate during this week for me but anything goes still.
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