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SeaEyes' Story
Hey lovelies! I’m 37 years old, in a long-term relationship with my man, no kids but the sweetest rescue mutt. We live in northern Canada (wwaaaayyyyy up north). I am in love with the stark beauty of the north and we are out playing in the mountains as much as we can – hiking, trail running, kayaking, sailing, backpacking, hunting, skiing. Too many adventures and not enough time. I started running a few years ago and quickly fell in love with it. And then running training led to a new-found love of weight training, yoga and fitness/health in general. If you ever want a fitness buddy to cheer you on, I am your lady! I work as an engineer in a pretty demanding but very fulfilling career. Reading keeps me chilled out, either non-fiction psychology, spirituality and coaching or smutty romance – looking forward to joining the book club! We are very new to D/s. Like just over a month into it! But so far, the journey has been amazing. We started TTWD on more of the emotional side than the physical side to help our relationship, but I have to admit, having a dominant lover in the bedroom is so fun. My man and I are very close but I was struggling in our relationship; with communication, being myself, loneliness, feeling feminine and trusting. I wanted so badly to find something to strengthen our relationship but all the advice I found seemed to suggest doing what we were already doing, just harder. And it was killing me. I came across a D/s relationship article one evening. I forget how I ended up down that particular rabbit hole of the internet, but so glad I got there. The article talked about trust and communication and all the good things that come in a strong relationship, but the biggest thing that struck me was the talk about not having to negotiate with your partner any more. It sounds so simple now, but it blew me away when I read it. Imagining taking all the energy I had felt I needed to (had been taught I should) spend asserting myself with my lover about every little detail and instead putting that energy into loving him and making him feel like a king. Initially I just assumed that there was no way it would ever happen. I mean it’s crazy right? But the idea stuck with me, and I found myself searching for more articles about a D/s dynamic in a committed relationship. And each time, I found more and more that really resonated with me. I finally got up the courage to ask my man if he would consider it. It was terrifying. But he is a sweet, caring and patient soul that wants to make me happy and our relationship work. So, much to my surprise, he listened openly and agreed to try out a D/s dynamic with me. Slowly and carefully, so that we make sure our hearts were safe. Reading and talking as much as we needed so we grow together in this, each at a pace that isn’t overwhelming. And it has started to change our relationship in so many positive ways for me (and him too I think!). So here we are. I am working on submitting to and loving my man as best I can day to day. We haven’t jumped head first into crazy, kinky sex. The only toy we have is my vibrator (which I am no longer in charge of!!!). Sure, I liked being spanked as much as the next girl, but apparently it calms and centers me just as much as it turns me on, maybe more (who knew?!?). I loved being held by my man, but have never felt safer and more loved than when I am pinned down with him growling in my ear You are mine! (swoon). I am also surprised at how good it feels to have him make the decisions, knowing he has my best interests at heart and all I have to worry about is putting my effort into following his lead and making our amazing life happen. It not easy and I find myself slipping into old habits all the time. But I catch myself more and more often and its starting to feel so natural. I feel like the luckiest girl alive to have such a strong, supportive man that is willing to give D/s a go with me. Wwweeellll…if you are still reading, then thanks for sticking with this ramble. Apparently, I am writing a short novel instead of a simple intro. Really excited to get to know the other subs on the site. Thank you for already being so open, inviting and supportive. I have loved our chats. It means a lot to have a community of awesome ladies to be part of this journey. XOXO SeaEyes.
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3 Replies
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SeaEyes,
I have truly enjoyed chatting and getting to know you. Your love for your Sir and the start of your D|s-M journey are inspiring. Not to mention your enthusiasm for fitness has already motivated me to get off of the sofa a time or two.
You should consider adding to this post occasionally as a way to document your journey. It would be very insightful for you and any new sub to see your personal experience as you discover the ups, the downs, the awesomeness, and those light bulb moments. Every journey is unique. Embrace and enjoy every second of this amazing ride!
Hugs!
subMarie -
Dear Seaeyes,
Welcome to the world of D|s-M! I look forward to getting to know you.
Warm regards,
Belle Soumise -
Welcome to The Warren Seaeyes! I look forward to getting to know you in the near future!
Smooches,
V
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