Retreat Checkups

[Angelica-BigOne]

 Since returning from the couple's retreat in Vegas, I can absolutely say Sir and I are more open with one another.  To be frank, we learned how to talk about things that were impossible for us before. Sir and I have always had a very easy "play" or kink relationship, but sex and sexuality were uncomfortable for us. Bring on the floggers and paddles, but sexual needs and desires were too hard to approach.
 A little background.... Sir was raised in an environment where respectable people simply to not discuss sex or sexuality...and certainly didn't display their emotions and thoughts on these matters out for others, even your spouse, to see. My perceptions of his background are that sex was a dirty little secret that you didn't talk about and got over with as fast as you could.  I was raised with the influence of generations of divorce steering my idea of marriage.  Sex, if discussed at all, was used as a weapon and was not ever to be trusted.  What I learned about sex from my parents bred insecurity and mistrust.  Imagine what the conversations were like for the 2 of us.  They simply didn't happen.  When we found this site, we started to talk about hard things, and we started to trust one another's reactions.  Our married D/s roles have been sailing along beautifully, but sex was still taboo.  I had essentially given up on having a sex life.  It was just too hard to overcome some of the physical and mental barriers we were facing, and I was trying to make myself be content with a loving, kinky, intimate, but sexless marriage.
 That ALL changed at this retreat. We felt safe.  We were 100 percent encouraged to embrace and live out our every role and fantasy with one another.  This allowed for a vulnerability in both of us that I think had still been hidden away.  We took workshops that made the "taboo" words not so taboo.  My Sir attended and participated in workshops regarding sexuality that I thought would make him so uncomfortable...I fully expected he would refuse to participate.  He not only attended, but he embraced and enjoyed it.  I was proud and felt so cherished that he was willing to push past his own discomfort with the topic in order to learn how to bring me greater pleasure.

 I was worried that when we left the magic of the retreat that we would go back to "normal".  It was a source of fear and anticipatory sadness that led me into a dark spiral pretty quickly when we left.  Sir had talked to the other Doms and was prepared for and watching for the "sub drop" that he had been warned would likely be coming. He sat me down and we worked through it all, still riding on the closeness that we had shared at the retreat.  What I took away was that he SAW me, he understood my fears, and he had a solution.  He wasn't afraid to have the hard talks, and he was 100 percent fully invested in being my Dominant....in all ways, with all aspects of our relationship.  All of this was cemented at the retreat, and has only continued to get better since we got back.  We talk more easily, and more importantly, I am able to talk more honestly.  We are crossing bigger bridges.  He is requiring more from me, a deeper submission...more emotional, and not so focused on the physical.  We have taken our relationship to a next level that I did not even know was there before the retreat.  We made a connection with each other at the retreat that ha snow bumped us into a relationship that I did not know was possible.  Does this mean I am now super-sub and he is perfect Dom?  Nope....I'm still an emotion-led hot mess, and he is still a fallible human being. There is lots and lots of work we are both still doing, BUT...we are doing it with more authenticity and at a far deeper lever since we have learned to communicate the hard things with true honesty.  Our D/s M is forever changed.  It is hotter, more exciting, and more real since we returned from the retreat.  We are finding ways to apply the courage and confidence that we found in Vegas to our daily lives here.  We are having more fun, trying more things, and sex is no longer a dirty little secret. ;)  This retreat, and the CONTINUAL support of the Sirs and subs that we bonded with there has brought so much to our dynamic, an we will be forever grateful for every single kind, encouraging, and challenging word that has been spoken to us.

[Unknown Member]

Dear friends,

The 2018 Retreat was like a dream come true. Mr. Greyson and I recaptured the romantic love that we had set aside while raising our children and building our careers, with the help and coaching of LK, and Mr. Fox’s sound advice, we have been working on improving our marriage for the past year. We were headed for divorce but then we found the sites. Everything changed as we passed through the first phases of D|s-M. Attending the retreat was a celebration of that hard-won success.

We were able to practice our roles and live out our fantasies of D|s-M in a safe and supportive environment. There were lovely opportunities to show deep submission and dominance at the retreat. There were laughs and jokes and much fun to be had at other times. One of the highlights was the opening ritual that was solemn and meaningful. We also shared small gifts with each other and our friendships began to grow at an exponential rate.

We enjoyed every moment to the fullest, made life-long friends, deepened our connection as Husdom and submrs, learned erotic message, how to flog correctly and a host of other D|s-M concepts. This event definitely strengthened our marriage through intense and monogamous themed events. We got to create and wear beautiful costumes and learn about other couple’s interests and lives.

This retreat was one of the highest points of our married lives. Thank you so much LK and Mr. Fox for the retreat and all of the hard work that went into the event and the sites.

Warmest regards,
Belle