• Respect in Domination

    Posted by obedientlyhis on at

    Hi all,

    Hoping for some advice…. my hubby (not yet been asked to call him Sir, we are new to this) and I were talking last night and we were discussing kneeling. He seemed so worried that I would appear beneath him and I would think he didn’t respect me. I have tried to reassure him this is what I want and I have directed him to husDom but I think until he gets over that he is stuck….

    Any advice?

    Thanks

    OH X

    obedientlyhis replied 9 years, 7 months ago 3 Members · 4 Replies
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  • Unknown Member

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    I had also asked to kneel for Sir as it helps me get in my head space for me to have more fulfilling submission. When I demonstrated it to Sir, he was a little unsure about it because it was new to him. But once, I showed him and talked about how it makes be feel and that I needed it, he realized that since it was important to me that it was important for him to feed me in this way. There is complete respect for me because it takes great strength to kneel and sumbit to my Sir. It is from me to him. Since then the practice has evolved into a naked kneeling bow pose on a floor pillow waiting for Sir’s arrival from work everyday. It is not something that was mandated, it was something that we both needed to feed on each other. Once he arrives home and comes to me in by bow, he sits on a chair next to me, inspects me, stokes my back, bottom, neck and whatever else. Then tells me to rest my head on his knee, while sitting on my floor pillow. He strokes my hair and asks me how my day was and tells me how beautiful I am. This extra layer of communication during this time definitely does not make me feel beneath him, but rather cherished and fully respected. Then he instructs me to stand, holds me and kisses me as I embrace him.
    Then he tells me to dress and then we talk about his day and continue on about our evening making dinner or whatever. He said to me other day about how much it has fed him as a Dominant and looks forward to it everyday driving home from work. I hope this helps.

  • obedientlyhis

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    Thank you that’s so lovely, I appreciate you sharing that with me. I am quite nervous about talking to him about it. I am nervous.

  • Unknown Member

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    ObedientlyHis First explain to your Sir that kneeling has nothing to do with being beneath him. Explain that giving your submission to him and kneeling below him is your respect and love for him, Submission isn’t given easy it is given with trust , love, openness and respect to one person. Tell your Sir that you need to kneel before him because it puts you in a place where you have peace, calm and joy in your mind. That when kneeling you know and feel that your Sir respects your submission , loves you for you and will always be there to take away the fear, the frustration and the self pity days you may have. Kneeling is a place that gives you security from the one person you need it from…Your Sir

  • obedientlyhis

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    Wow, thank you. That’s a lovely and helpful reply. He is now on husDom so I think I have a better chance of it making an impact on him. Thank you

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