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Punishment During Pregnancy
Writing this piece is the final part of my punishment for giving myself 3 orgasms without permission, waiting for the most convenient time to tell Sir and then attempting to negotiate/argue my way out of the punishment. Sir also thought this is a good way to talk about possible play while a sub is pregnant.
I walked into the room, which was preheated and setup. Sir removed my clothes and had me kneel until he was ready. He then told me that I would receive three punishments, one for each O. First, he had me on fours with my rear in the air and inserted a plug. He then gave me a spanking with his hand, a strap, a cane and a paddle. He limited the number of blows with each given my condition and monitoring me carefully. I am somewhat of a masochist, so there was some pain involved but nothing over the top. Second, re removed the plug and massaged my rear. He inserted a different dildo into my ass and then had me sit up and penetrate myself while he watched. This was actually tougher for me mentally than the spanking. Third, he tied my breasts in an erect but comfortable way (where it didn’t squeeze to the point of pain or discoloration) and had me pleasure him in the 69 position. He granted me permission to cum when I was ready, but I was unable to do so b/c of his prior training where I had to ask permission right before. He also had me clean him up with my mouth after he had finished. This was exceptionally difficult and I was relieved when he stopped me after the third lick. Finally, he pleasured me orally and told me to cum when I was ready. If I asked permission per our previous arrangement/my habit, he would refuse. I was on the edge 3 times, but kept asking for permission which was not granted. I then asked him if I could ask permission and he was surprisingly pleased and allowed me to do so. I came with hie permission the fourth time. He then held me and talked to me for several hours of blissful aftercare. It was a good night and I apologized for my indiscretions and understood why he was displeased by my actions.
As to play while a sub is pregnant, each has her own requirements/tolerance. During aftercare, Sir told me that he has had to re-learn my body in these last 6 weeks. My reactions/pain threshold/arousal are very different and that is it very important ans critical (even more so that always) to do real time monitoring as the punishment/play is going on.
I hope this is helpful and please feel free to ask us any questions.
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This was very interesting. Thank you for sharing.
Regarding re-learning your body… We found this very necessary as well. It’s amazing the changes that happened while I was pregnant. Things have gone back to normal for me at this point.
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I definitely found this post interesting… and eye opening. We have stopped all physical or sexual punishments as I am now n my 3rd trimester. WE were also advised by our doctor early on in pregnancy to avoid any anal play and to keep impact play to a minimum. I am happy to see that you were able to continue along with both of those. I know that it has been hard for both of us to step away from those things as they were a large part of our lifestyle. I do agree we have had to relearn my body during this time, but it has been good for both of us. It has been 2 months now since I have had any type of punishment (not that it wasn’t deserved) and we both realize even more how much we need solid consequences. We are looking forward to getting back that dynamic after I recover from having our baby, which could be any day now!!!
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I am now 24 Weeks.
Limitations: Sir says that we are gradually having to tame down the activities. I get tired so much faster and need nourishment after a scene. Aftercare is a longer process. As I get bigger, it is harder to move as fluidly or quickly. The positions are more limited and we have gotten away from “thuddy” impact play. We have also limited nipple clamp use because my breasts began leaking a little. With anal play, I am asked if I am comfortable and He goes with whatever I tell Him – if anything, only the small plug for 10-15 mins. Another cool side effect of the growing belly is not being able to see my nether regions to shave. Sir said he will do it for me, but we haven’t had time. With the blood volume increasing, my veins are looking like ropes. We are very careful with bondage – 1) He never leaves me alone while tied up (even when he does normally, there is a camera), 2) I can always get out of it on my own and 3) It is faaaar less constricting so I can move if I need to.
The Upside: The second trimester has felt so much better even though I am bigger. I have more energy and greater desire. I have enjoyed giving lots of blowjobs and doggy style is my new favorite position. Sir thinks I look sexxxxy, especially my bigger boobs. While they have been overtaken by my belly, he probably f**** them once a week. As far as “stingy” impact play and spankings, I am LOVING them right now. I was more of a strap/paddle person before the pregnancy, but I am enjoying the flogger, cane and crop more now. I also love the mental part of D/s which we hadn’t explored before – him writing something on me, Sir stroking my hair as I lay on his chest and fall asleep etc. Of course, feeling the baby kick interrupts play. But, we are overjoyed in that moment. My Sir starts talking to the belly and encouraging her. It is so adorable.
Our personal “No-nos” from the beginning are still in place: 1) Any kind of negative body image comments (we never do this anyway), 2) No electroplay, 3) No spanking of any kind in the abdominal or mid-lower back (back of shoulder ok), 4) No suspension, 5) No needles, 6) No inserting anything but the freshly condomed penis into my vagina 7) No waxplay
Sir continues to do very rigorous real-time monitoring during play. Subspace is very real even while pregnant. Sir has to be more vigilant all around. He has had to say “no” when I asked for some things, but I trust Him with my safety and in that decision. I cannot emphasize the importance of a Dom re-learning your body and limits during pregnancy. It is different for each sub and during each phase of the pregnancy. For subs, I highly suggest you directly verbalize your limits every time before you play. As always, there is no shame in using a “red, yellow or green” or your safeword. It’s all about trust. If you don’t trust someone or you feel they haven’t done their homework, don’t play with them.
I know there is little out there on this topic, so I hope this is helpful. As always, please talk to your doctor before you do any kink activities while pregnant. I was put on complete pelvic rest during my last pregnancy, so we had NO sex/kink past about week 9. Listen to your doc and your body. Please feel free to share your experiences/feedback or ask any questions.
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Thank you for this Arwen. I may have to link this post in with my keeping the D/s alive during pregnancy post if that’s okay. 🙂
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That would be awesome NSK! 🙂
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It’s week 30! Things have slowed down on the sexual and D/s fronts, but I am not necessarily unhappy. My Sir is taking care of me and I am enjoying it for the most part. Pregnancy takes a lot out of you physically especially as the weeks go on, and it is nice to have someone to lean on. It also does a number on your body image, so it is a blessing to have someone tell you that you look great, help you eat healthy meals, and pamper you with some awesome massages.
As far as the sexual front, I pretty much ask whenever I am up to it, which was once in the last 2 weeks. It was amazing, but I get tired quickly and it is hard to maneuver as easily. It’s always doggy-style with him doing most of the work. Other rituals and protocols have been suspended. I know to those that are new and considering how pregnancy affects your lifestyle, this may not sound encouraging. When you are this far along, it helps to take the pedal off the gas and just relax. Lk has been telling me this for some time and I really think it’s a good piece of advice. Just remember, is it temporary and things will slow down and come back to focus in about 6 months. In the meantime, let Him take care of you both.
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I can’t thank you enough for sharing! I have had so many mixed emotions. I am so excited for another baby of course. But when reality set in that D/s might have to hit the breaks I sank a little. We are pretty new and I don’t want to get derailed when I can feel the deeper connection we are making. Finding ourselves in D/s. I don’t want to take away any of the tools that make everything work for us. Punishment is such a big part of it all, in and out of the bedroom. I’m not quite sure how it would work without it. How I would work. Sometimes it takes a good spanking to get my mindset back in a submissive state. I still have a lot of concern but this post definitely helped.
Always
Kleine
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