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Public Play
Way back in February BayoWolf took me on a train trip that ended in San Francisco. For the next 2 nights we played at the Citadel dungeon. And just this last weekend we went away for the weekend and played at a local dungeon two different evenings. These were not the first times we played publicly but they were the first experiences with a BDSM dungeon. I will share some things I have learned and will be happy to answer any questions y’all might have.
- Will I be judged for being too ___(fill in the blank with too fat, too skinny, too whatever) This is one of the few places I have ever been where no one cares what you look like. Oddly enough getting naked in front of people was the easiest part of playing in public. Nudity is expected and treated as no big deal.
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Will I be safe? I have always felt safe in a dungeon. I always wear a play collar so it is obvious that I belong to someone. At the Citadel Sir had left to get me some water so I was standing alone watching a scene. A man standing beside me started to talk to me until he turned to look at me and saw my collar. He stopped and when Sir came back he talked to him. That is the most interaction I’ve had with someone at a dungeon without Sir standing right there with me.
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What to wear? What ever makes you feel sexy and your Sir likes. Sir did a “dress up his Barbie” with me one night. I think we tried just about everything I have ever bought for events to find what he liked. Find something edgy and sexy and go with it. And a collar that is obviously a collar. I have several thick heavy black play collars that I wear.
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Naked really? Yep, nothing but a blindfold and a collar. As soon as Sir puts my blindfold on the crowd (if there is one) is gone and there is no one but him. He is the center of my focus. Eventually I will get rid of the blindfold but for now that helps me block everything out.
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What did we do? We both love the St Andrew’s Cross so that is usually our first choice. Sir has a wide variety of implements, floggers, paddles, ect that he uses on me. We have also used spanking benches and padded tables. At the Citadel they had mats on the floor that we used.
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Is it clean? Absolutely! At our local dungeon we have to clean the equipment before and after use.
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Is everything public? That is different for different places. The Citadel (which is now closed, stupid Covid-19) had on place that was more private than the rest. The local dungeon that we are playing at now is a large open room, no private places at all.
That’s all I have for now but please ask any questions you might have.
Keep Moving,
Pearl
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3 Replies
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Thank you for sharing Pearl. We are far from any city so we travel once a year and attend 2 dungeon nights. I have always found the people very respectful. I was surprised with all the body shapes and the level of comfort. It really helped the way I saw my own body. I have since been less critical of the skin I am in.
I’m in awe that you have been to the Citidal. I have seen many presenters from there. 🤞one day we will be able to go
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So I am curious…at these “dungeons”, do you bring your own toys and basically just play in front of people or what is the mentality behind it? Is it to be able to watch other couples scene?
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You do bring some of the more personal type toys, floggers, vibes and such. However, the ones we’ve been to have the large furniture type things available, St. Andrew’s cross, tables, spanking benches. Our local dungeon has a large suspension rig that multiple people can use at once.
There is some exhibitionist/voyeurism involved as well I suppose. There is also some desire to get to know others IRL that share some interests.
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