Playtime and scenes?

[Veruca]

Here is a post for you that explains the difference between the two:

https://submrs.com/play-vs-scene/

I hope it helps clarify!

Smooches,
V

[bliss-aka-mr-grants-muffin]

Thanks for bumping up the post! I must admit that we don’t actually “scene” by these rules. We will schedule time for one and loosely plan what is needed. By that I mean my Sir will drop hints as to what I should expect and if I need to do any prep work. As far as detailed planning and choreography, neither of us are really into doing that. My Sir knows that I enjoy the spontaneity and excitement of NOT knowing exactly what he is going to do. If we discussed it all so far ahead of time this and had it all laid out like scenes in a play, for me personally, it would be less gratifying and exciting. Also, I fear my “perfection detail oriented” side would take over and ruin “the moment”. I don’t know…maybe someday we will get to that “level” of play but I am enjoying how we do it now…so maybe it is just D/s play but I’m OK with that as long as the flogger, restraints or ropes and blindfold are involved (oh maybe the wand too as an extra bonus) I am one happy Subby!

[Unknown Member]

Bliss, we are the same way. My Sir prefers being spontaneous and only doing a little planning. He will grab a handful of toys, restraints, and implements and we never use all of them. We laugh when things don’t go quite as he imagined and we have to figure something else out. But we always have a wonderful time.

[jaklen]

I think as long as you are both happy, that’s all that really counts. There are as many ways of doing kink as vibrators at the toy store!! It’s endless! If your Sir and you are being fed, then roll with it. There is no right or wrong way.

[morning-dove]

Thanks, everyone! One thing I have heard loud and clear through my readings of all the blogs, forums and replies is that one size does not fit all and what makes us happy (and by that I of course mean Sir), is what’s right for us. Thank you for all your input! I think we need to concentrate on feeding each other so that we can both grow. Any advice there?