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Playing with Toys
Today my Hitachi wand arrived plus 4 attachments. My Sir was eager to play so we started when he got home. Lying on the bed,flat on my back with my legs open and feet resting on his thighs we started with the wand. I cleared my mind and enjoyed the sensations but I kept wriggling, trying to get Sir to place it where I needed to get an O. He got a bit annoyed when I asked him to place it on my clitoris directly. 40 minutes and 3 attachments later I still hadn’t cum and he was getting frustrated. Many times I was close but then he would move the wand if I wriggled a bit. We stopped and Sir got me to go on hands and knees and rubbed my clitoris with the wand’s curved attachment from behind. I came quickly.
Recently I have been extremely fatigued from moving house and having fibromyalgia, have had laryngitis for a month and have been getting a sore back and some numbness in my thigh from packing/unpacking (I have scarring on the nerve root from a slipped disk that required surgery 7 years ago). Sir said that he changed things when I wriggled because he felt that I wasn’t being honest about my back. I found this extremely irritating because I had said openly several times that I was comfortable and just wanted the wand on my clitoris. In another forum post I have mentioned that it can take time for me to climax. Once I was on hands and knees the wand made me cum quickly. Ugh I was close many times but despite talking during the session we still had miscommunication and despite cumming wonderfully I feel disappointed and a bit annoyed.
But it has got me thinking. Maybe Sir was partly right – maybe certain positions are better for climaxing than others and that being on my back isn’t the best position for me. Maybe being fatigued and still coughing impeded things. What do others think? Are some positions better than others for using the wand?
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3 Replies
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Ladybird don’t be disappointed lady, you just received the wand in the mail and it’s your first time for you both using it. I think there was miss-communication and that is why it is so important to talk to your Sir after about your play. What you felt, what you could change to have a better experience. Now to your question on positions using the wand: My Sir has used bed restraints on me so I can’t move lying flat on my back in bed… some times wearing a blindfold. Sir has had me standing “X” style restrained with the wand strapped to the inside of my thigh while flogging me or cropping me this is my fav. position. Sir has tied me to a chair with me ass hanging over facing Sir using a wand and Sir has had me doggy style while using it. Sir has also used other toys while using the wand, also keep in mind the wand using the wand depends on how much pressure is being used. Not enough pressure and it can be frustrating, too much and it can be painful on the clitoris. That is why honest communication and talking with your Sir about your play session is important. You will find out that different toys being used different ways can be stimulating, can drive you crazy or be frustrating. It will get amazing as he learns and explores your body while using them, but communication and reading your body responses is the key. 🙂
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LB, I totally agree that some positions tend to be favored. We each have them. I also think that if your sir were inclined to let you play while he watched, study you, if you will, you two might be able to learn a lot about what gets you off. He will find power in knowing that and being able to control it. It can be very sexy and fun, especially if he asks you to talk it out as you do it. 😉 it takes practice and you’re both new to this. Maybe in downtime also remind him that if moving the wand was intended as punishment because he thought you were being dishonest, that you would appreciate being told that at the time. We cannot correct what we don’t know. My sir and I have an agreement that any punishment will always be discussed usually before, but always during and after…no matter how minor. There was a time in this journey that my Sir would become exceptionally frustrated. Walk out of the room frustrated because I couldn’t climax. We found that huge parts of that were related to him feeling emasculated by the change in our routine and the fact that I STILL had trouble reaching orgasm. He actually asked me to post in the forum about it because he feels it’s important info to share and both sides of the dynamic need to understand it to avoid the emotional toll it takes. When it clicks for them, the frustration slips away. They embrace the skill set necessary to be dominant (it’s in them already) and that alone will drastically up your satisfaction. And his! You guys will get there, but the beginning can be really difficult. We still hit speed bumps and road blocks from time to time. Growing pains 😉
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LB… The wamd is fabulous and like you there are certain positions that work better for me than others specially with the wand… One of my favorites for the wand is…. I laydown on it and I can position myself right where I need to be. My sir lays the wand on the bed or the ground whereever we happen to be playing and tells me to laydown and he watches me orgasm hard and fast… I cant get multiples in a short amount of time this way… Enjoy your research!!
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