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Perspectives on a year of being a Good Girl
Last Mother’s Day, my Sir took me on date and during the course of it, we decided on the rules and rituals that would govern our D|s-M. A year later, we were reflecting and discussing how those have shaped our relationship. Several of our ideas turned out to be not as awesome as we thought they’d be; the rest have stabilized and are practiced consistently. The current version is:
- I am Sir’s alarm clock and will wake him up with my mouth on his cock.
- Journal once per week about our D/s-M. One per month journal about a fantasy. Whenever a new journal entry has been completed, leave the journal on Sir’s nightstand for him to read and reflect upon before our next Downtime which occurs on Tuesday evenings.
- The bed belongs to Sir, and I present myself for inspection before I join him in it as his submissive.
- My collar belongs to Sir. I do not take it off or put it on myself.
- Sir will open doors for me, and order for me in restaurants.
- Once per month, I am to buy new lingerie.
So let’s talk about that first one. Yes, it is every day. I am very proud to say that I never once begged off of this responsibility. My HusDom is frequently gone for work, but I estimate that I have given him well over 300 BJs this year. We were texting about this last night, and the comments below are his perspective on how that has brought us closer. I told him that I wanted to quote him and he agreed.
“A great way to start the day. I would say something to that effect…we start every morning with intimacy. And we pretty much end every evening that way too.
It’s a positive reinforcement of why we are married. Love and intimacy, those desires attracted me to you. Enforcing those reasons daily does not allow them to fade as they do in other relationships. Bonus points-I start each day with a BJ…
The underlying primal attraction when two people first meet is not “I want to pay bills, clean house and raise kids with that person.” It’s “I want that!!!” It is our God given instinct to procreate. All the rest fall in place after those first feelings of attraction. Why should a couple let that feeling slip away because of everyday life?
I think women feel that too? I know I did. My first thoughts were: she is beautiful, I want to feel her next to me (or something a little sexier). I had not even spoken to you, how could I know I was in love, or would fall in love? I immediately knew I wanted to have you though. I think women feel that too but sometimes won’t say or admit that in public due to societal pressures. God put those desires into our souls.”I absolutely agree with him. I am so grateful for the way that the D|s-M framework has allowed intimacy to become the glue that bonds our marriage.
Hugs…
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Absolutely beautiful Staci. Wolf also gets a daily BJ and I have to say that I have changed so much in the last year because of that. I love that time of intimacy. And my skills have drastically improved!
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This…is…AWESOME! What a wonderful insight into the dynamic that you and W have worked so hard to build together. Thanks for sharing this inspiration with the community and KEEP ROCKING YOUR D|s-M LADY!!!!
Smooches,
V
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