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New to SubMrs… and to D/s!
Married for 27 years, with my husband for 29. Our 2 children are adults now… though they moved home after college and are still with us! Keeps the bedroom stuff challenging…
My husband had a crisis of realization, I guess last year, realizing the D/s world really turns him on. He hid this from me until I discovered it… and was shocked, moreso because we’ve been on the kinky side since the beginning… so I was surprised he originally felt like he couldn’t share this with me! His biggest belief that prevented him from sharing was that in the dynamic of our relationship: I’ve been quite dominant over the years; as I grew up in NY in a house full of strong women, it is second nature to me. On the other hand, he’s been the laid back one, as he grew up in a tiny farm community in the Midwest.
As we’ve grown together over the years, many things have changed. I am definitely a driven, assertive individual – I was quite successful in corporate America and left in the 2000’s to start my own business. Today, I’m quite well-regarded and a successful leader in my field. Also, my husband and I also have done martial arts together for more than 13 years, and have multiple black belts together.
And yet… when I found out about his interest in the D/s world, and I looked more into it (I knew about it, but never really looked closely at the full spectrum)… something I had never considered came to the surface, and it felt REALLY GOOD to consider it! One of the things I’ve been encouraging and truly wanting in our relationship for years is for him to take charge of more; this is an incredible opportunity for him to do so! I submit! I surrender! I let go! We’ve agreed to do this in the bedroom; I’ve surrendered the most intimate part of my Self to him.
We talk now more than ever, and I feel we’re more intimately connected and REALLY communicate, heart to heart, raw and honest, than we most likely have ever been! I am SO turned on by how much more assertive he is, and his Dom side… incredible! And I’m learning a whole new dimension of my Self in the submissive role. What an opportunity for growth… while being saturated in pleasure!
Thus, we’re newbies, now exploring together on this new adventure. Happy to have found this site, as there’s just SO MUCH out there, and not a lot in terms of talking about the “M” part. Thank you!
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Welcum Trinity!
Your story is not uncommon… I believe that it takes a VERY STRONG WOMAN to be a subMrs…. I think at a stage of life, we want to let go of the reins and want for our husbands to take them and lead us…….. I think that many times we have taken the control seat and really fought for it, while we thought it was the right thing to do and for some it may have been, at that time. But, once here in the dynamic you both find your roles and in D|s-M you are finding them in a healthy and sustainable way… a VERY SEXY and fulfilling way! The method in getting started is key… make sure to attend the NEW SUB Live video chat and get the details on the start-up method… Itt helps you start on a strong foundation.
Very happy to see you, hope to chat more in future! Mr. Fox is very much into jujitsu, maybe your Sir and him can talk on husDOM!
WELCUM!
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Welcome! As LK said, your story is not uncommon. Many of us here have similar stories. There is a lot of information here and groups of all kinds. Please explore and make sure to look at the calendar to see what chats might interest you.
I am the Fitness group leader. While I do talk a lot about fitness, general health and wellness are also discussed.
Let us know how we can help you on your exciting journey!
Keep Moving,
Pearl
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Welcome to the site. You definately found the right place. I loved reading your introduction. Exploring those new connections and intimacy are so exciting. I look forward to seeing you on site
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Welcum Trinity!! I’m SB, 51, and also fairly new to DsM, however not new to submission. This is an absolutely amazing community to belong to. You will not find more supportive mentors anywhere else, and LK and Mr Fox has created, and graciously shared, this dynamic and community so we, as married submissive and Dominants, can thrive!! My husDom and I are learning new things and having the time of our lives. We’ve been married for 34 years, together for 36, and you are correct…. the communication and intimacy we have discovered is phenomenal since starting DsM. So again, welcum!!! And I hope to talk to you more on site. BTW…please think about attending the chats. They are AMAZING, and you will quickly make some very good friends. Have a beautiful day!!
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Welcum Trinity. You are in the right place. We have all been in the same place as you and your husband. This is a great community with great subport. Please reach out to any of us. I am the group leader for the toy/tool group. Please let me know how I can help you on your journey, so glad you are here.
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Thanks everyone for the warm welcome! So great to find others to talk to about this new exploration in a frank and honest way.
I definitely plan to attend some of the chats, as my schedule allows. Also want to take a look at the books you discuss… always looking for some fun play ideas, as I’m still looking into some of the depths I haven’t previously, and “don’t know what I don’t know” excites me… 😉
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Welcummm! Love your matrix picture😍 the magic of D|s-M is a beautiful thing! Can’t wait to connect and chat more.
(((Hugs)))
Kleine
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Hi Trinity! Welcum to our tribe! It’s funny when I read new intros. They remind me of just how much we all have in common. It just blows my mind! I always feel like I am reading my own intro with just a few minor differences.
~subMarie
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Welcum Trinity! So glad you found us! This is an amazing community and the best place for subport for the D/s/M lifestyle! Explore the site and ask any of us any questions you may have. We are here to subport each other. I am the sexy librarian and am glad to see your interest in reading! Head over to the library and give us some ideas on good books to read (or you may find some there that interest you!) Would love to see you at the book club chat tonight! We have a great time and don’t always just talk about books!
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