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New found dynamic!
Hello my name is Roxy and I am 26. My Sir is M.T. He is soon to be 36. We’ve known each other 10 years and been married 7 of them. We have a blended family with a total of 5 kids. 4 live full time with us and all happen to be girls!(2 prior and 3 together). I came to my Sir with the request to start a D/s-M dynamic. We are VERY new to this but I feel like we aren’t. Even though we just started it has brought us so close so fast, that it seems so natural. He wants to cross every t and dot every i and I just want him to dominate me. I feel bad because he has been doing a phenomenal job at making sure I am mentally, physically and emotionally okay with every step. Which is so shocking to me because he has never been the affectionate type. I LOVE that I can finally tell from his actions that he actually wants me and loves me. I think that’s why I want to move so fast. But he just seems hesitant and thinks I am not ready. This was not the first time I brought up to him us switching over lifestyles and the only reason he knew I was serious is I asked him to give me a name! We’ve been doing somewhat of a 24/7 lifestyle which we both want but with the kids its not to the point where I want to be. I want to do and be everything for him and when I try I get I don’t need a maid and I can do this myself. I love getting spanked and he loves doing it. I kneel for him and everything. I can’t express to him enough in the few downtimes we’ve had that this is what I want, how far we can go and to not hold back. I even bought him a “gift basket” with lingerie, lovers rope, and a crop. I don’t know what else to do to show I am beyond ready to be submissive to him. I AM grateful that he does want to take it slow and I want to move fast and not the other way around but maybe I am doing something wrong or don’t see something. Please help.
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3 Replies
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Welcome SubRoxy!!
It sounds like you are off to a great start. Lots of subs want to move really fast at the beginning of this exciting journey. It’s wonderful that you are so motivated and enthusiastic, but remember that slow changes stick. If you can allow your Dominant to take charge of new areas of your life as it feels natural to him, the two of you will be less likely to slip in and out of your roles.
Again, welcome!
Staci -
Welcome SubRoxy! You have found yourself in the best place possible to make the lasting changes that you want. Around here we tease a lot about the dreaded “P” word, patience. Most of us hate that word and all that goes along with it, in other words, you are not alone in your desire to do it all and do it now. However, (I know, don’t you just hate that?) let your HusDom lead in the way he needs to. Try kneeling every day and think about all the changes you have already made, not everything you still want to do. Begin journaling (if you don’t already) as a way of getting all your thoughts down and letting your Sir read them and contemplate them before discussing them with you during your DownTime.
Take a deep breath, slow down a little bit and let your HusDom do exactly what you are wanting him to do…lead.Hugs
Pearl -
Hi subRoxy!
Welcum to subMrs! Please let me know if I can be of any help at any time. Looking forward to talking in the chatroom.
HUGS!
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