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New Dynamic
LK asked me to post in the forum about my dynamic. Another subbie asked me about things that are on my list of chores/things to do for my Sir every day.
I have never blogged or posted anything really on the forums – so bear with me! I will start with I am a 50 year old submissive to my HusDom G. We have been married for 30 years, 24/7 D/s-M for almost 4 years now. It was one of the best things for our marriage.
We have two wonderful children, 25 and 19 – the youngest just moved out last year for college so we are officially empty-nesters. That really changed our dynamic – we were 24/7 before but mostly in the bedroom / and mostly servitude that was done in a secret vanilla fashion.
Since the kids left, I have a list of things that Sir likes to be done each day in our routine. Some subbies have asked me about things that I am required to do each day, and here are a few, but some are private to Sir so I won’t be sharing those – but you should check with your Sir and find out what He likes best.
* Make His coffee each morning and take it to Him in bed (stand patiently holding his cup, waiting for Him to dismiss me)
* Set out fresh towel and clean underwear for his morning shower
* Make sure His beverage glass is full and ready for Him in the refrigerator for later
* Set out His vitamins and pills for the day
* Fold down His bed in the evening (with the remote where he has easy access to it on top of the sheets)
* Lay out His pajamas for the evening*HusDom G works from home and I don’t – so when I return home from work I am to announce that I am home and greet Him with a kiss. He will instruct me on what He wants me to wear (or not) for the evening.
* At bedtime I get ready for bed (wash face / brush teeth, etc) – and once I am ready for bed, I will retire to the bedroom. We tried kneeling once we first started, but because I am a little older it’s difficult to kneel for really long periods of time – so I have my own chair that sits in the corner of His room that I will go and sit in. I will remain in my chair until HusDom G tells me to get into His bed – depending on my attitude and His it’s either a short time or a longer time.
* Once in His bed I am to ask Him if He would like a blowjob before He goes to sleep.
If I forget any of my chores or do them incorrectly, there are consequences of punishments such as spankings or denial for certain periods of time.
Lately, I get off more on focusing on His happy ending instead of mine. I love it when He takes what he wants and doesn’t worry about my need. Serving Him and giving Him what he needs turns me on more than the thought of my happy ending! I love the raw animal nature of Him taking what belongs to Him.
Also, I am working on servitude more so – I have been really, really busy at work, and so my servitude has been laxed, and HusDom G just discussed His disappointment in me last night for not taking care of His needs first before what I wanted to do. 🙁 I am sure there will be punishment tonight!
Anyway that’s what we are working on right now – hope this helps give one of you some ideas. Also, if you have any suggestions of any other things I could ask HusDom G to add to the list, let me know.
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That was a great description of your daily dynamic. Thank you so much for sharing!! We have several rituals. One is in the morning. When I’m first to wake up, I’m to grab my robe and with eye contact, slowly put it on. Another one is at night (new to us) When taking off my clothes, I’m to keep eye contact and slowly remove my clothes. I also make his coffee for Sir every morning.Sir works from home and I’m a stay at home Mom. I enjoy making his breakfast, lunch and dinner. We are always looking to add to our daily rituals.
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Thank you for sharing your dynamics with us Boop…. Please keep sharing here in the forum.
HUGS! lk
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This is lovely! Your post gave me a lot of ideas. Transforming everyday little tasks that I perform anyway (like making His tea in the morning) into a ritual of submission. Thank you! I am so glad I joined.
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I love reading these types of posts. It give me and my Sir more ideas for what we want to add/consider for our rituals. Thank you!
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