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New and eager!
Hi all!
I am very excited to be a part of this community! I’m hoping that since my Dom and I both got our memberships today that our D/s relationship will start to develop and grow. I feel like this is the resource we needed in order to keep pushing forward. I’ve been the one who’s been reading and learning about BDSM and the D/s-M dynamic, and introducing it to my husband. We’ve been dipping our toes into BDSM and D/s for about a year now, but have never had a formal ceremony or anything… I’ve mentioned how I’ve wanted to and he never really understood. So, I’m hoping he can read on husDOM and find out what I mean!
I’ve been struggling with patience lately… I want my husband and I to go all in, to the next level, but I’m also trying to wait for him to take the lead. I’ve been reading about D/s for a while now and have ignited my inner sub desires, but it’s frustrating because my husband doesn’t seem to understand what a dynamic should look like. I tried bringing up to him the other day that I wanted to have a formal ceremony and “feel like a real sub.” He definately did not like that I said that. I feel that he thinks D/s is just kinky fun, but it’s supposed to be so much more than that. I want him to create rules for me and for us to start scheduling scenes, because right now everything we do is spontaneous. I don’t even think it could be called a scene… more like, really really kinky and FUN sex. I’m starting to pick up on the fact that he has been planning things out a little more in the bedroom, but I crave that schedule and consistency. I want to know that we will have scheduled scenes and I crave rules to follow. I’ve slowly been trying to express this to my husband, but I’m hoping he can understand a little better from being apart of the husDOM community. I also could use some advice on how to start expressing things respectfully and be patient. I want to dive into this so fast, but I also have to remember not to take the lead and know when to encourage, rather than making assumptions.
Any advice for a new and eager sub is welcome!
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