• Need a little advice

    Posted by simone1984 on at

    Me and sir are new to this,but it’s going great. We’re making progress and talk a lot.
    I’m about to go on my period and the week before I’m usually a raging bitch, I don’t mean to be. But it’s like I can’t control it (I have ADHD so I’m used to controlling my issues ?)
    Im emotional unstable,my boob hurts,my body aches,im so irritable you won’t even believe and so damn tired. Everything sir does pisses me off,I’m holding my temper but I just feel like snapping at him. He sucks on a bon bon it’s annoys me like fingernails on a chalkboard. Slurping his coffee and I wanna rip my ears off.im behaving but I just wanna yell and cry ? Anybody else feel like this when pms’ing? I feel so bad cos my sir is such a attentive,understanding,caring and patient sir. he requires that I wheel in my temper and talk to him in a pleasant,respectful way. Ofcourse I am to do this❤ On top of this I got a yeast infection because of all the sex ? So spanking is out of the question for sir, he doesn’t wanna do anything to make matters worse for my poor pussy. How do you ladies deal with your mood? Any advice you have I will cherish ?❤
    Sir knows about my pms and he ordered be to bed yesterday afternoon cos he could see I was tired, I couldn’t sleep though.

    X Simone

    simone1984 replied 7 years, 7 months ago 4 Members · 7 Replies
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  • Unknown Member

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    I would ask for down time and just be totally open and honest. Try to head off your symptoms…ibuprofen, heat pad…whatever works for your sore body. Maybe ask your Sir for a task to keep you focused during this time. Maybe some type of stress relief. Good luck..I know it can be tough when the hormones take over!

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    Hugz sub port ! This is something you will deal with monthly …. try to make a detailed plan .., akydt whsts working what’s not. My share … fix this loding s week or more out of your life each month … you both deserve better

    Curvey

  • Kaninchen

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    We here on subMrs.com call this time of the month, RED MADFISH, for a reason… But, I would say that you may need to talk to a professional about those feelings and get them under control before you can truly embrace being a submissive. The foundations of D/s-Marriage dynamic are based on respect, trust, honesty, communication, intimacy (love)…. With being emotionally unstable it is hard to stay with those pillars of foundation. I wish you well PM me here on site anytime.

    HUGS, LK

  • simone1984

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    Thank you for taking your time to answer ❤ i have been getting some therapy and been to the doctors, its “just” pms, normally they Would give birthcontrol pills,but im hyper sensitive towards hormones, lucky me.sir and I talk a lot about this and if I didn’t have our dynamic I would be worse ? It has gotten a lot better,he’s patient with me and I try to meditate. But sometimes I get so annoyed with small things like sounds etc.i do have so many fysical diagnoses on top of my ADHD and anxiety. I need this dynamic so much it has helped with a lot of things both for me and sir. We are still new so we talk a lot.the coloring book thing is maybe a good idea, I suggested it to my sir and he will take it into consideration, today he got me to help paint the youngest room, man that helped a lot.
    My mood is so much better today ?

    I’m so glad to have found this site,and is grateful for all your sub-port ❤

    Hugs

  • simone1984

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    Haha red madfish, thank your for your words LK, I do think you’re absolutely right about the emotional instability.i do get medication for my ADHD so it’s all under control ? And I get regularly therapy,luckily my psychiatrist says that I’m pretty emotional stable- unless I Pms.im glad it’s just for a few days. I just need to go live in a tent while it last ?

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    S,

    Glad you are here ! SUbPort from others I have found helps lots !! We all have our ISSUES….I CHEERS you for being honest and sharing ! .

    My share ….emotional disorders , ocd, anxiety … is REAL !, Tell your HusDOm. the truth on how your doing, keep in touch with your Doctor I think the world and most people don’t see any wounds on the outside so , they don’t understand what is wrong 🙁

    Peace,
    Curvey

  • simone1984

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    Curvey, Thank you ❤ we’ve always been honest with eachother. But its another level with D/s, I love this. Sir keeps me focused on other stuff than illness.
    I also have fibromyalgia,pcos,Karpel tunnel, double jointed almost everywhere, chronic inflammation of my hair roots on top of the other things.ive been caught up before this by complaining about it a lot, but now I can do other things, he praises me for handling it with dignity now.but he also acquire me to tell me how bad the pain is everyday when he asks.D/s gave me pease in my heart ❤️
    And I can completely let go of control doting playtime,so I’m not tensing up anymore. I love doing things for my sir he expects of me ??

    Thank you for your input it means a lot.
    All your inputs means a lot ❤️

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