how your body effects your relationship

[twiztidzgurl]

I have the same issues, Rose. I am not happy with my body since giving birth to our youngest last year. I have been looking around the site to gain some insight into how to be more comfortable with myself, and here is what I have come up with. The mirror scene. It sounds scary and overwhelming, but I feel like it is something I must do. I feel if I can see my body as Sir sees my body, then maybe it will help me embrace myself. I think it is going to be very difficult for me to complete the mirror scene, but I think it is critical for me to do a complete scene. I think the benefits to me would be tremendous. Other than that, maybe you could try a slow transition of more healthy food and incorporate some type of exercise to help encourage both of you. Long walks with your Sir may be a nice start! Burn calories while getting some bonding time! I hope this helps you, and please update with any other information you try, as I still need help with this myself! 🙂

[Unknown Member]

My share …
We live in a world that constantly represents women as Barbie dolls. I found. D/s, sex. Magnified it for me. You don’t see a Curveysub picture ofton. Confidence, stop beating yourself up, stop thinking you are less because of a number on a scale.

In saying that I don’t think being curved is obese…obesity isn’t healthy. Be healthy, work on what you don’t like Show off your Sexy

Ps. I’m a glitz glamour girl. Wearing the right. Clothes, fit. Heels are a must….instant lb loss. Lol.

…..thongs don’t work for everyone…..go retro look. Hi. Cut on the leg, higher tummy coverage…black of course
….. Get a play bra …go cup smaller sooo they spill out everywhere…sexy
….. Yes,it’s ok. To go to bed with lots of smoky eye make up…sexy

[Unknown Member]

I am struggling with this a little too. I went through major weight loss a couple of years ago and got down to my ideal body weight. I went from around a size 14 to size 6 and then got pregnant. Although I have got down to around 10 lbs above my pre pregnancy weight, to me, my body does not feel like the same before pregnancy. Our D/s has served as motivation to try to improve in this area for myself and my Sir. D/s does tend to make me as a /s feel on display a lot of times and I think it motivates Sir to maintain complete control and one of those areas is his physique too. Although many of the effects of pregnancy can not be undone by going to the gym (stretch marks etc), the act of working out and putting real effort in this area tends to make me feel better about what I see as personal physical shortcomings. My Sir absolutely loves me and tells me I am beautiful; it is feelings that are coming from within that I need to address and working out helps those feelings for me and gives me more energy, endurance, flexibility, etc for play time / scenes.

[Unknown Member]

JC,
Yes, your Sir loves, treasures you….just as you are. Bravo…on the weight loss !! Yes, I call by preggers stretch marks, not soo perky boobs, mommy honor badges. I’m way past those days our youngest is 25. We are our harshes critics. Have you done LK. Mirror scene?

Cs

[Unknown Member]

I struggle with this issue as well. I wrote this to express how I feel about it and how much I had to come to realize that my Sir loves me no matter how I feel about how I look. It was an eye opener for sure, hence the title: Open Your Eyes
For the longest time, I have quietly struggled with how I now view my body.
I was once this lean, muscular, perky breasted girl.
I was SEXY as hell and knew it.
After giving birth twice, nursing two babies and admittedly allowing many other things get in the way of “working out”, my body just is not what it once was.
I have a woman’s body now, not a girl’s, I have been told.
That didn’t change what I thought I saw in the mirror every day.
I let it turn me into the woman who always wants the lights off.
Or the woman who would always keep my eyes closed so that I could keep a mental image of that sexy as hell girl in my head, just so that I could feel better about being seen naked…

The other night my Dom/husband told me to get in front of the mirror.
He whispered in my ear, “Open your eyes and don’t you dare close them.”
I opened my eyes, looked at our reflection and saw…….
Our bodies mingling, entwining, swaying.

I didn’t see what I had been trying to keep hidden for so long.

I did see what I had been denying myself for so long.

I did see that look in His eyes.

I felt SEXY as hell once again.

[Unknown Member]

Big point for your Sir….He loves you, your his sexy,beautiful woman

We soo beat ourselves up …Thanks for the soul share. Hold your head high, walk like a goddess….because you are his.

Cs

[juliet-rose]

That is very common JC, I think we have all suffered this in one way or another. The most important thing (and the hardest) is that you see yourself through your Sir’s eyes. Our eyes are trained to find every flaw and imperfection, and what you look for is what you’ll always find. Sir gave me a mantra when we began D/s: “I am beautiful inside and out, I will act accordingly” He really doesn’t like it when I devalue his most prized possession, so he gave me that to remind myself not to do that. The second thing is to work on the things that bother you, and ask for is help in holding you accountable. (You will regret this almost immediately, but it is so worth it! 🙂 ) Your hard work will pay off! Good Luck, and keep posting your progress!
smooches,
JR

[Unknown Member]

Subbies I agree we pick ourselves apart, but my Sir has always told me that the day his eye’s seen me that I was going to be his. Sir told me that he fell in love with the complete me. That my body is only the outside and that it only has little value compared to what Sir see’s on the inside. Sir tells me that it’s my personality, my mind, my joy, my compassion and my stubbornness that makes who I am and what Sir loves. We can all do better with our weight and it’s a struggle but as long as we try to do the best we can that is all that matters. Love yourself as your Sir see’s you because your Sir is the only one that matters and he will always be there to help you be the best you can be.

[Unknown Member]

There are many times when I don’t feel very sexy. I know I will never be even near my weight when we married or when I was pregnant with our son. When I began a new medication, I gained some weight.

Those people on the magazine covers? They don’t really look that way either. They sit through hours in a make-up chair, being posed, dressed, lit, and adjusted to get the right angle. It is hard when society implies that you need to be wafer thin and look a certain way.

We need to try to put things into perspective. After kids, our bodies change. This goes for both men and women. [My Sir is really good at helping with kid-leavings at dinner. ;)] As we age, our bodies change. We need to learn to embrace these changes. Our bodies have experience. It’s a good thing. When I feel down about my body, I remember that my Sir tells me often how sexy I am and of his desire for me. Our Doms love us the way we are.

[Unknown Member]

Amen ! Thanks for the post. My Sir Loves all my curves. I love dressing for him,only to please him. I’m 53 ,2 grown children. So, I have seen my body change a lot. Interesting thing …I look better now than when I was 30….how is that???? Confidence ! ❤️Curveysub