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How do you feel about your collar and cuffs?
Well, hello to all reading I am very new here and very new to the world of D/s M. This weekend I found myself a new woman! This has left me with so much to feel, say, and analyze, about what I have lived so far. I have in the past just looked at the collar and cuffs and another level of kink. Until my trip around the universe this weekend. Now, I find myself feeling very differently about them. To me I found myself feeling very lost and dis-connected without them on when roaming around our home without them on during that “vanilla” time of the day when we are in family mode. Still figuring things out I put back on my cuffs under my cloths for that “security blanket” feeling I had gotten from them the night before. (Day time “jewelry” was not cutting it!) After spending the day sort of what Master and I like to call “chewing the flavor out” of that nagging issue what ever it maybe I found my answer. It’s a tether for me. I feel as though I will leave myself. I feel so free now and at peace about so many things that have troubled me all my life. It’s like they hold me in. Like a seat belt so to speak. For me the though the strongest symbolism and one that carries the most emotion for me is I feel tied to Him. Like even though my Master is not around I feel him right there his hands have placed this bondage on me, a bondage that I asked for and didn’t fully understand myself until today! I will veer a second, has your Husband, Master ever gently placed his hand on the small of your back or somewhere comforting when your enter a tense situation, place, or gathering and you instantly feel safe? You know he is right there, your not alone. This is the feeling I have embraced from wearing my cuffs and collar. I feel my Masters hands around my wrists guiding me and telling me I’m ok and my ankle cuffs hold me to this world. My collar is my reminder to myself of my submission. I never could have imaging something so simple become so powerful to me. This is why I felt the need to place this topic here in “Spiritual Expression”. To me this amazing discovery has become just that for me. Spiritual is a very good word to sum up the roller coaster ride I’ve been on. I’d love to hear what others feel there cuffs and collars mean to them. I hope all of your have wonderful days and nights full of love and so thankful to share my thoughts with all of you. I can not shout my new found happiness from any roof tops but, I can shout it out here with those of like mind and thank you for that.Now, that said… “Next sexy sub please stand up….. =0) “
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I do not have a collar or cuffs yet but I understand how they make you feel. Since I have been offering my submission, Sir has begun to become more in tune with my feelings. No he cant fix every problem. But a touch on the neck or in my hair reminds me that he is there, that he will never leave me, and that we get through things together. I wouldn’t say he takes all the burden away, but this small gesture lets me know I don’t have to carry it alone.
It sounds like the cuffs give you a similar feeling. I think it is awesome you have a way of connecting yourself to your Sir in this way. I’m looking forward to having a tangible reminder from my Sir like a collar, but we are still feeling our way…and what fun so far!
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Beautiful,
Wow, that was a spectacular story. I have been having some of the same feelings and emotions. I actually put the dogs’ collars on them today and stood for a moment wishing Sir was here and I had mine.
I find that so mind blowing. If you had asked me if I would be collared a few months ago I would have thought you were joking. Now I am really cuming to enjoy that connection. 😉 -
Totally me too. I feel loved and safe when sensing them on my body. When my M allows it, I get to sleep with all of it on, restrained to the bed, at his side. Pure bliss! LS
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That is so beautiful. I too feel this deep sensation about my jewelry as W/we call it. My collar was the very first “play” item my Mr. Wolf gave me and it has developed such an important meaning. In my beliefs, during a vanilla wedding, the participants have their hands tied in a handfasting. My collar feels like a constant reminder like my wedding ring. Actually as i write this, im on the bus to work and i realized when i went to shower i left my collar tucked in my sleeping clothes instead of in its vox.. i immediately txted Mr. W and told him and asked for forgiveness. Or punishment.
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