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Finding Sir….when the journey begins
So I believe that everything happens for a reason. I found this site shortly before my long distance relationship broke up. So now I am back in the online dating world. I have learned my lesson and no more long distance relationships. D/s is just too hard for me with long distance in the mix.
Currently, I am on vanilla online dating sites. I am more attracted to very masculine men….men that enjoy their masculinity who also want to be with a very feminine woman. After all, the more masculine he is, the more feminine I get to me. (Which is what I loved about the long distance relationship that didn’t work out.)
I have really benefited so much from reading all of your posts and I confess, I have more reading to do. I am continuing to do research to learn all I can about the D/s lifestyle.
I am looking for advice on how you brought up the subject of D/s with your Sir. From what I have read, many of you were married for many years before you entered into this lifestyle. I am interested in any and all advice you can share with me. I know that my situation is different in that 1) I am not in a relationship yet. 2) I will need to bring this up earlier in the relationship.
I am very interested in some of the questions/concerns your Sir had when you first brought it up. How did you address his questions/concerns.
So I am asking a lot in this post, i know…but I am sure that you have great advice. I look forward to hearing your advice.
Thank you in advance!
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Hello Sapphire. Have you considered a non-vanilla site for finding anyone? I met my Sir on an “alternative” site. There are lots of fake people and creepers, but I imagine there are those types everywhere. He and I spent a long time messaging and chatting on line until I felt comfortable enough to meet him in a place of my choosing. We are getting to know each other like any relationship develops, but… we also know that the D/s is important to each of us. He and I are both from failed vanilla relationships and decided we knew we wanted someone who understood this side to us, and wanted it also. Just a thought.
Smitten
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Smitten,
Thank you for sharing!!! I am so happy for you. I love hearing how people find one another. It gives me how that it will happen for me too.I was on an “alternative” site for awhile but I was so discouraged by the number of men that claim to be Doms but actually hate women or talk in their ads like they hate women. The truth is I want a loving committed relationship and I haven’t found it via vanilla or alternative site. If you have a specific site you would suggest, please send me an email and provide suggestions. I really do want D/s but not the way many of the Doms on the alternative sites define it.
Once again, thank you for sharing!
Hugs,
Sapphire
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