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Finally getting into the swing of things
Hello all!
So, i posted a couple days ago that my Sir and I were struggling. Everyone here said to start with the foundation and communication is key to this kind of lifestyle. I took the suggestion and applied them and talked to my Sir last night when he returned home from a 15 hour shift at work.
To give a little background on my Sir, he is upper management for a major 3 car company so he is charge of a lot of people. They look to him for guidance and direction on the assembly lines, along with having to maintain reports, meetings and scheduling shifts in the plant. I can’t say more then that cause he is not allowed to disclose or he could loose his job.
Now, that being said…. I printed off the articles off this website that I wanted to approach him with. He was frustrated when he arrived home and I made sure to treat him with the upmost respect and waited on him hand and foot, making sure all his needs were met. He started talking about how no one wanted to listen to him today and that the directions he was providing the workers didn’t want to do and did the opposite. I saw that as my opening and showed him the articles and told him ive been talking to all of you and that their are many who live this lifestyle and who can support. I told him he may not feel like the dominant at work that he wants but he can be the dominant of me.
He then expressed that he looked into this on his lunch hours over the last couple of days and he said his major hold back was that he didn’t want to be considered to domestically violent. That the thoughts in his head, the dominance he wanted to have over me and the red coloring he wanted to see on my ass would be wrong cause he would be hitting me. We went on this website and the HUBdom website and we read over the spanking and that it was not wrong. I explained that I was ok with it, that I gave permission and so there for was not abuse in this type of lifestyle.
So, not to go into too much detail- He finally let go of his darn worries and let the dom side of him loose. He made me kneel and very seriously explained what he wanted of me from this point on. How when he said “make ready” I was to prepare my self for his desire to do whatever he wants with me. I have 5 mins to wash up, hair in a low pony, put on purple shades of eye shadow, mascara and most important heavy eyeliner. I am then supposed to wait for him on my knees, wearing nothing but a purple thong, with hands flat against my thighs and wait for him in his office. He has a chase lounge in his office and without me knowing, he had bought a soft purple blanket to lay on it. He expressed he was no longer going to refer to me as my name, that he chose a submissive name for me to answer to from this point on. He wants to me to reefer to him by his choice of Dom name, he wants to be addressed as “My Love”. He explained to me that my color he wants on me that shows him my submission is purple, which was why he chose my collar to be purple and silver. And finally. FINALLY, He spanked me and made me beg for him by his dom name. He embraced this wholeheartedly and rolled over into today and he said this morning that he never realized how much he needed this, that it felt right.
I know this is a very long post but I am so damn happy and i wanted to share it with others that would understand my joy and excitement! I apologize if I went to much into detail and am not supposed to, but It just makes me feel complete and like the part of me that was missing is now being fulfilled. And for the first time in our 13 years, he showed pictures of what I look like to his employees and co workers. He is ACTUALLY proud to have me. 🙂
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3 Replies
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Hey 1softkitten. Loved reading how things are changing for you. It can be hard on our Doms in the beginning I know my Sir struggled with not feeling like a bad guy. Lots of positive reinforcement from me helped him get through that. Keep feeding that circle with your submission and positive reinforcement. It looks like you two are starting a wonderful journey together. I wish you all the best.😊
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I’m so happy for you! That sounds absolutley lovely! I know my Sir struggles with 60+ years of being taught that this kind of treatment of a woman was disrespectful to her and even abuse. I’m SO glad your Sir overcame that hurdle. 🙂
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Oh my goodness, congratulations! I know you know that there is a lot of work still ahead of you (feeding the circle and making sure your foundation starts strong as you both grow together) but I am SO happy for you! What a wonderful way to start a new week… With a new adventure into D/s-M ❤️
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