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Feeding/Being Fed
I want to start this forum for us to share stories of the way our D/s has been, or is being fed.
I asked my Sir for this. Therefore the work that is put into it lies in my hands for now. There has been ups and downs, but the progression of our relationship has been absolutely positive. Even after 16 years, there’s so much more to learn.
I’m learning patience is a virtue. As I continue to feed him, I grow hungry. Which puts me in a funky mood. This is when I need to talk. After our short discussion, I didn’t feel satisfied. I was good and fought through the urge to turn vanilla. The next night I went to bed before Him. Shortly after falling asleep, He wakes me. He tells me he loves me. That I’m his everything. That he adores my unconditional love for him. He tells me that he likes this thing I’m doing. Even though he’s not sure how to adapt to it. That I am pushing him and it can seem a bit overwhelming at times, but he sees why I do it. That if I didn’t not much would change, and he wouldn’t really try. That he loves I’m bring back the spark.
I hold my arms out to bring him near me. Grab both sides of his face and kiss it all over.One moment I’m fast asleep. The next I have an eloquent meal before me. I ate it up,as I was starving.
You see, I may be guiding us in a direction, but we’re moving at His pace. When I made a decision to submit, it was my all. However long it takes, I’ll be right beside Him.
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Beautiful! and Beautifully articulated! Instant gratification is something I’m used to, I never realized that was going to be such a struggle for me as a sub. My Sir is very careful in his research and planning, he wants this to be done properly. I want it all NOW! My first punishment was for that LOL. But after journaling and reflecting, it occurred to me that this was exactly what I needed: Him to have the power to save me from myself, to know what is best for us and just how far and how fast we need to go.
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Thank you! My Sir is a bit different. Lets just say he’s set in his ways. Breaking the old for something so completely new and opposite of what we had been living is hard to grasp. So at the moment I am nurturing him. Giving him bits and pieces. I’ve learned that to much of a good thing can have the opposite effect.
If you have ways of feeding your Sir, or ways you are fed that you would like to share please do.
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Each day after we both get to work, I send him a text. Letting him know I love him, and a compliment. Today I told him that he truly is the best part of me. Seems to keep me mindful and feeds his soul.
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My Sir is a pleaser. He has always spoiled me and been very considerate of my wants and needs. I tell him often during the day how much I love the Dom in him, how it allows me to be softer and more sensitive. It clears my mind and there is a freedom in submission like I have never known. He sees that his pleasure is my ultimate high and that makes him want to learn more and do more.
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sooo happy for you Lizzy !!! Way to go ;o)
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Thanks April! I love our journey! With its ups and downs. I’ll take this road over the one we’ve been walking any day.
Do you have any ways that you feed your Sir, or He feeds you that you would like to share?
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I’ve been asking him most days to pick my underwear, I kneel for him often, I’ve asked him exactly what he wants to see when he walks in our bedroom, I think it’s helping him understand what I need more than explaining, he needs practical examples and lots of practice to change the way we used to do things, and really I do enjoy practicing and learning together ;o)
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Lizzy, we feed each other by putting each other first. It is the art of anticipating and fulfilling the others needs and wants, many times even before they have realized or articulated it. It is going out of the way to make the other person’s life easier. It is the look on their face when they see that you have thought of them. It is an infectious and delicious cycle.
As far as how he feeds me, it is how he takes care of me – drying my hair, bringing me breakfast, making good play decisions that keep me safe but satisfied. It’s the gentleman/husband he is outside the bedroom that makes me feel like His lady inside. It is his confidence and quiet leadership through example.
How I feed Him – He loves me kneeling and Downtime and holding me at night, while playing with my hair; I do the nighttime ritual. He says it’s very special because he knows that I took care of every specific prep and thought of him that day. Also, it could be something as simple as taking care of an annoying task or situation that he is dreading. It could be buying his favorite food or a new tie/underwear/socks, that are left there without anything said.
And then there’s the bedroom: We both text from time to time each day. It could be about a variety of subjects, but about once a day it will say something like “How is my sub doing today?” (from Him) or “Can I be your little fucktoy tonight?” (from me). This sparks off a different conversation. Once he gets home, it’s the discrete looks, touches and body language both ways. The hungry then feast! 😉
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Arwen, this is so beautiful! I may read this to my Sir, if you don’t mind! Love it!
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Glad that you liked it and please share if it will be helpful. It has been such a pleasure to talk with you as we have both embarked on this journey. You are a wonderful couple and it is beautiful to watch you grow together.
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I like to leave Sir , little post-it notes on his laptop in the morning with “love notes” written on them. I go to work and he will find them later when he gets up. I hope that he reads them and it brings a smile to him and brightens his day
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