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D|s-M & the Holidays
As the holidays are approaching, I have started to proactively think about ways I will manage my stress and continue to feed my husDom. Not just with food, but emotionally too. With errands, cooking, cleaning, and entertaining we must remember that our husDoms will want our attention. They will also be feeling stress.
Some of the most important things we can do for ourselves is to exercise, watch what we are eating, and get plenty of rest. These are critical elements to ensure we are emotionally and physically ready for holiday season. Our overall health is so important and often overlooked.
For my husDom, I have planned to step up my submission in several ways. Simple things we can incorporate is making sure our Sirs have a cold beverage waiting when they arrive home from work. If you are alone, kneel at his feet for a little bit as he decompresses. If it has been a stressful day, we can massage their feet, back, and shoulders or even provide an extra blow job! I recently gave my Sir a bath to help sooth a head cold. It was really nice just kneeling beside him and pouring warm water over his shoulders as he relaxed. He seemed to enjoy it.As busy as we get, it is very important to keep your rituals in place as well. Downtime is critical and is a great communication tool. Remember, you do not have to wait on your Sir to call DT. Be proactive and ask your Sir for some of his time. Several subs have rituals of changing our day and evening collars and kneeling for their Sirs. Do not get your feelings hurt if your Sir forgets, simply remind him with a smile. They have a lot on their minds too!
When around family and friends there are several things, we can do to incorporate D|s-M. Consider wearing no panties or bra to tease your Sir a little bit. Of even wear some sexy hose with garters. Ask your Sir if could be allowed to wear a butt plug, nipple clamps, or have some fun with remote toys. I enjoy making it know that I am taking care of my Sir by fetching his beverages or food. I will openly ask him if there is anything he needs. I’ll wait for my Sir to begin eating before I do.
And don’t forget to let your Sirs know how much you need, love, and appreciate them. Words go a long way verbally and in writing! Cute text messages throughout their day is appreciated. You can include a quote, a sexy image, or even a silly meme. Hide little notes in their lunch bags, pant pockets, wallets, or even on their steering wheel.
The ideas for a fun D|s-M holiday season are endless!!! Please comment and share your thoughts and ideas. Let’s make the next few weeks fun and sexy!
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This is all wonderful and proactive ideas.. thank you SubMarie.. I am defnitely going to use these in our everyday life.
Hope you are enjoying your cruise!! x
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As sir and I have just started to add rules to our dynamic, keeping it light and stress free I can see is a must going into such a busy time of year. Thank you for bringing up an important reminders. I especially like the thought of having him start to eat before I do. Him pulling chairs out for me at the table is a rule for us now. I think I will speak to him about this one too. I think they go well hand in hand.
Terenya
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Good reminders Marie! Thank you for sharing!
I am looking forward to this Christmas season especially since my Sir is in a very “festive” mood this year! I will be looking forward to hearing about everyone’s success staying in mindset and sharing my own.
Smooches,
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These are fabulous suggestions, Marie! Sir and I are lucky to even remember our basic when things get busy, but some things that help feed our dynamic in the holidays are: asking him before I purchase a gift for the kids, trying on sexy Christmas lingerie and texting him pics…(you don’t even have to buy it), serving him plates of food and coffee, etc…going out of my way to select items that I know are on his diet and being attentive to those needs as I plan entertaining menus,we keep downtime faithfully every week and add on as needed, I respectfully wait in our room if Sir feels I am getting stressed/uppity and sends me there to get a grip…even if I’m crazy busy and don’t agree with him at that moment. (I’m not always as Angelic as everyone might assume ;), I sit in the room with him at parties and casually ask his permission to go and chat with friends, use the bathroom, etc, and we hold hands as much as possible…he will squeeze my hand in warning if I am starting to lose focus, and I will squeeze in return as an acceptance of the correction…kind of a silent, “Yes Sir”. 🙂
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This is great Marie! My Sir and I do pretty well at keeping our existing rituals in place, but you have my wheels turning about some new rituals specifically in the holiday spirit! 🙂
Hugs!
Staci
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