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Donor – Surgery?
So I am kind of stressing and I am sure my first step needs to be to sit down with Sir again, but a family member of mine is in stage 4 kidney failure and she needs a kidney and my knee jerk reaction was hey I have 2 – take one of mine, but I behaved and discussed it with Sir at length before offering up an organ 🙂 We have agreed that I can and will be doing this. However now that the testing has started to see if I match (I don’t & we’re doing a paired kidney exchange, which prompted a second MUCH LONGER convo between Sir and I), yesterday they took like a gallon of blood (i may be exaggerating a little lol) and some other tests that left me DRAINED all day…sorry I totally logged on for book chat last night & didn’t have the brain power to participate. Anyway, now that it’s looking real and getting closer, Sir just looks more and more concerned and I’m starting to notice the day of the testings at least, he’s not playing with me and DEFINITELY not any hard play…so now I’m getting scared that I am going to lose all that we have worked on for the last year when I go into surgery…so I am trying EXTRA hard every night at kneeling, etc for him no matter how drained I am to show him it will ok..
So my question for you guys is has anyone been through surgery/recovery?.. (I will be in hospital for only a couple days & then recovery can be a week or 2 or even 3 depending on the person, which is why I am doing my hardest to stay healthy too) and if so, how did you stay on track and keep you dynamic before during and after surgery? I know Sir’s “Daddy”/protector side will take over during recovery..I saw for biopsy lol but this is a longer period…but how do I keep him seeing me as a HIS submissive while I’m laid up? Sorry if this rambling…ANY advise is welcome 🙂
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I’m sorry I have no experience with the surgery but I wanted to say I do not think you will lose anything. It may be a little different for a bit but I think you are in a place that you will be just fine. You are His submissive no matter if he has to take care of you for a while. Yes your play will be different while you recover. Don’t worry just keep communicating and be Honest with him about how you are feeling. You cannot hide things or try to put on a brave show. It is a great thing what you are doing but be honest about what your body can handle. 🙂
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Thanks Princess! You have hit the nail the head really! I feel like an Idiot…live & learn i guess! But basically I completely over reacted…I don’t think I have misread a situation this badly in a long time 🙂 So we talked and his recent quiet after the most recent testing was 1. Pride in HIS strong submissive (I am humbled) and 2. he absolutely will not be playing with me on the day of testing (or recovery) as even if I don’t recognize or admit it, my body and myself need rest…apparently he can tell/read me so there will be no brave face that gets me play time if it’s not good for me…and 3. the sweetest part of all he’s been keeping a lil secret & taking me to our friends’ beach house this weekend for relaxation even though it’s not beach weather here yet..the sound of the ocean instantly relaxes me. And basically as far as recovery is concerned 1 or 2 weeks will not wipe out anything…I am HIS no matter…he knows that and I know that…i feel so silly now..i almost wish i hadn’t posted lol but i’ll leave it for a reminder to stay subby & stay away from vanilla reactions…Sir said I was probably just over emotional from blood loss lol well and I am curious if anyone has any tips on staying in the right mindset 🙂
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Don’t feel silly at all! That is what we are here for. Kinda great when you can stop and realize Hey we got this. We will be just fine. It’s just who we are. 🙂
Maybe littles have an advantage here. I think we are used to more of a back and forth flow in our relationship. While you recover he will more in the Daddy role and that side of the dynamic will be more prevalent. Then once you are better you can return to the submissive tasks you do. -
Princesspea, You can’t serve him if you’re not well. You belong to him and part of your submission includes taking care of yourself. Don’t push yourself when recovering because it will only do you harm. Be honest about how you feel so he can have a clear judgement on what he can and can not do. Then when you are all better you can resume doing all the things you normally do. At first you most likely won’t do much and then gradually reintroduce things until it goes back to normal. Let him take care of you! It can be an opportunity to explore your little side and his Daddy side, he can take care of you and you can be little and watch movies and cuddle with your stuffies and anything you want! Don’t worry, it’ll go back to the way it was eventually, don’t rush it though.
Good on you for doing this in the first place 🙂
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Thank you ladies! Seriously helpful advise! I love the idea of having little time during recovery time! Thinking of it that way makes it a little better. Now I’m kind of looking forward to recovery 🙂 Still have one more full day of testing ahead of me before they even finish up the matching part…they wanna make extra sure that I’m healthy inside and out before they take an organ, which I think that’s the only part that Sir likes about this process is that he’ll know just how healthy his princess pea is. Thanks again guys!
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CHEERS to you & your Sir …what a gift you BOTH are giving ! There are NEVER any silly p out here ..we are all REAL …SUB PORT!
I have recently received from surgery …took longer than I realized ..so , I found some things that worked for US !
I mailed Sir a card yep, postage stamp and all …he loved it !
I colored some pictures
I just gave him cuddles, stroked his arms ,thank him for taking care of me !
I was not up Playing so , we found ..connected in other NEW good ways….Your Amazing, Please keep of posted
Hearts, Curvey -
Thanks Curvy! Glad you’re recovered! Sorry it took longer than expected …love all the ideas! especially mailing a card to your Sir!
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Just a quick update, I feel like I haven’t been on here in forever! So I just finished the final ALL day testing last week…btw, Sir stayed with me the entire day going from one apt to the next…if He was allowed in (like education meeting) he went and if not (CT Scan) he waited patiently & lovingly in the waiting room (he even one time told them to back off while He got me some crackers lol)…I am soooo deeply in love with Him! Anyway, now me & my kidneys go before a Board to see if I’m healthy enough to donate (pretty sure i am) & then we wait for them to find us a matching pair (it could be a while booooo). Thank you so so so much for your Subport on here ladies! Seriously…it means a lot! I’ll def be bugging you guys when i’m laid for a week or 2 in recovery!
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Your Sir is amazing! Good luck. And we would love to keep you company while you recover.
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I haven’t been here in quite some time! Hope everyone is doing well 🙂 i see a couple of the little/princesses have left 🙁 My surgery was a week ago today. I ended up having to spend a few extra days in the hospital and Sir slept by my side every night in an uncomfortable chair that pulled out. I am at home now heeling away as fast as I can without pushing it. I know I we cannot play any time soon, but Sir says or does something every single day to remind me I am His, that he is proud of His girl, and that He still wants me very much 🙂 Happy Update: My family member that received her kidney is doing REALLY well so far and seems to be accepting the new kidney. It was a paired kidney exchange so the Recipient in another state (my kidney took a road trip lol) that received my kidney; I only know so far that my kidney made it there in time and the surgery went well.
Off to catch up on the blogs here!
xoxo Princess Pea
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HEARTS to you PP,
So , HAPPY you HOPPED on the share the HAPPY NEWS !! What an amazing GIFT you shared with another XOXO
CHEERS to your Sir ….so , happy he is mending you …keeping the D.sM ..going in little ways. I HOPE you will POST share more …Ideas of mending..How to stay connected for both Dom or Sub on the mend 🙂
When I was down , I wrote Sir a love note each day,
CURVEY
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Thank you Curvy! You’re just the sweetest! Enjoyed chatting with you the other too! 🙂 Love the love letter idea! I have started journaling again and have added to it…I have been researching and thinking of ways I can kinda of be better submissive to Sir and write about that as well…we’ll verbally go over it all later, but it keeps me in the mindset (whatever works!)…when he went back to work this work, I have resumed sending him love texts and naughty “snaps” with a little alternation so as to not include the incision area…I am also embracing my little side a bit more and have colored him some pictures…
Sir took me to my follow up appointment today but he has to work tomorrow….I think I’ll have to take some inspiration from you and write Sir a love letter….
xoxo princess pea
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