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Disappointed
Yesterday my Sir and I were just hanging out on a Friday night. We were both worn out from the day and we decided to order pizza. Afterwards I made a comment that we needed to put the pizza in the fridge. I got up and started walking away to get in the bath. I was being a little snarky admittedly. Trying to test him. Not a good idea I know. So I got in the bath and he ended up putting the pizza away. He texted me while I was in the bath with this “Let’s just say next time saying the pizza needs to be picked up and then leaving to go have a bath. Not a good choice for serving. It should have been, would you care for more pizza and if it’s alright with you, I will have a bath and what scent would you like ?” I was tickled that he responded this way. I thought for sure I was in for it after I got out of the tub but that was the end of it. I found myself feeling very disappointed that he didn’t dole out any punishment. I feel silly for being disappointed. Should I bring this up in downtime?
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Hi, kitten. I have gone through stages of misbehaving to get my Sir’s attention. Think most of us have. In the long run, though, earning punishment orcattention that way always ends in disappointment. I’m a huge spanko. I crave being sternly lectured and taken over Sir’s knee.. all the while licking and begging him to stop. That’s a fun fantasy, but in reality, when I have pushed and tested his dominance in Order to get a reaction… it left us both feeling dissatisfied and hollow. Inevitably he doesn’t respond the way it was arranged in my head, and I start to spiral down an abyss of self pity and criticism. I have learned to just ask. Because of our many conversations in DT, he knows what I crave. When I ask for a spanking, I may not get it right then, but he will know that my inner brat is starting to rise up, and he will find a way to give me a “funishment” to satisfy that need I have to be taken in hand. I think it’s impirtant that you have a DT with your Sir.. confess your attempt at manipulating the situation and what your goal was for the situation. Maybe together you can find a way to fulfill that desire in you without you trying to control his responses. 🙂
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Hi, kitten. I have gone through stages of misbehaving to get my Sir’s attention. Think most of us have. In the long run, though, earning punishment or attention that way always ends in disappointment. I’m a huge spanko. I crave being sternly lectured and taken over Sir’s knee.. all the while kicking and begging him to stop. That’s a fun fantasy, but in reality, when I have pushed and tested his dominance in Order to get a reaction… it left us both feeling dissatisfied and hollow. Inevitably he doesn’t respond the way it was arranged in my head, and I start to spiral down an abyss of self pity and criticism. I have learned to just ask. Because of our many conversations in DT, he knows what I crave. When I ask for a spanking, I may not get it right then, but he will know that my inner brat is starting to rise up, and he will find a way to give me a “funishment” to satisfy that need I have to be taken in hand. I think it’s impirtant that you have a DT with your Sir.. confess your attempt at manipulating the situation and what your goal was for the situation. Maybe together you can find a way to fulfill that desire in you without you trying to control his responses. 🙂
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Thanks Angelica.. I have been trying to stop manipulating situations, but it is difficult. I will bring it up in DT. Admittedly im a little scared at what he might think or say about the situation. But I have to remember that DT is our safe space to talk about these things. Glad I’m not the only one who has done things like this.
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Dear kitten,
I so agree with Angelica! I wanted to mention that your man is becoming a proper Dom in his speech. How exciting. I can’t wait to hear more about your story.
Warmly,
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Update: we had downtime last night and I brought this up to my Sir. He took it very well and when we got down to it we realized we had never discussed punishments. He explained to me that his way of dealing with my misbehaving is to initially bring it to my attention. Give me a chance to change my behavior. If I continue with the bad behavior, then he will punish me accordingly. It made sense to me and I agreed with his methods. We also discussed “funishments” and ways we can incorporate it when I’m feeling the need to be “corrected”.
Thank you ladies for the encouragement!
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