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Deep Throat
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I definitely deal with a little gagging, but my biggest problem is breathing! I’ve seen to breathe through my nose, and I try, but I can’t. Any ideas what we’re doing wrong?
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While I have never been able to DT, I have never had complaints. I will be trying the numbing LPs mentioned above by KR, but I know that there are different ways to make the experience enjoyable by both parties. I dont like using altoids bc I had a friend hat choked on them, so instead I use the listerine strips or the liquid icebreakers. They are pretty powerful but try them ahead of time to acclimate yourself [also try the cinnamon for a burst of heat]. I like using pop candy too.
My friend swore at using toothpaste, but I have never tried it…um…then there was the use of rocks mentioned, but I think Hardcandy would b better for this so the giver enjoys it as well. I think the purpose is to have a different texture during said activity.Has anyone heard of any other methods to give oral pleasure w/o and with DT’ing?
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I hum, or moan, when he goes deep. This helps me think about my beathing. I have real issues with being afraid of not being able to breath – nightmares where I’m drowning and such, so the vocal noise really helps and it also seems to help open my throat as wide as it can go. Sir also really likes the noise of my moaning! LOL!
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Honestly, i have never had a problem with dt. My suggestion is to focus on relaxing. This is especially important when it comes to not tensing up your throat. Depending on your Sir, he may go further than just the back of your throat if he is big. If if focus on relaxing, you can get it to go down further and slighly into your esophogus. It takes some time if you dont have the natural ability, but it is worth it…an amazing opportunity to provide for your Sir.
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Lots of great ideas ladies! Thanks for sharing. I am working on this as well. Seems to work better if I moan and control my breathing as well. He likes the moaning. I still gag some but figure practice will help. I am going to try the toothbrush trick and perhaps the listerine strips.
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If you can’t breath through your nose when deep throating it because he’s not going down your throat he blocking off the back of your throat where the air travels. I always try to swallowing when he at the back of my throat when deep throating it’s helps the gag reflex and it drives Husdom crazy!
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I have found a trick! Fold your left thumb into your palm, wrap your fingers around it and squeeze. Gag reflex disappears! I found it on a life-hack post on facebook. It worked for me but I have to admit that it was hard for me to keep my thumb clamped down while on my knees and trying to balance and DT. I have also found that I am able to DT a lot easier if I’m extremely aroused. Hope this helps 🙂
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So, I have NEVER been able to conquer the gag reflex. That is, until I read this forum post. I decided to try some of the techniques listed, and I am ecstatic to report that I was able to perform a successful DT! Here is what I did differently. We used lots of flavored lube (so choose a flavor you like), I focused BIG TIME on breathing through my mouth (for some reason, I gag when breathing through my nose, but none at all through my mouth), and I also used the thumb trick described by BlondieT. It was fairly easy using these techniques, and of course, Sir LOVED it! Good luck to you ladies, and I hope this helps!!!
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Hi! I’m relatively new to this website, and I hope I’m asking this on the right thread. I’m lousy at oral sex…I over think, haha. But I really, really, want to DT my Husband. It’s something I know He wants, and He’s been very patient with me (firm, but patient). I want to surprise Him by making some progress. All these tips are AMAZING and I’m practicing. 😉 So, my question is lube. I can’t stand the artificial flavored stuff; it makes me gag all by itself. I’ve read that coconut oil is supposedly an excellent alternative. Has anyone used it and/or liked it? Does it matter what brand you get (organic/refined/unrefined)? I’m probably over thinking this, too. It’s kind of what I do without my Husband, haha! I was just curious. My google searches haven’t been very helpful. 😛 Thanks in advance, ladies! I’ve really enjoyed reading all the information and tips you’ve shared. Everyone seems so lovely. 🙂
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Hi all! New to the site… but have a few things that have helped me DT. Been doing it for 2 yrs, and it definitely is a tool/skill you don’t want to get dull. I started out with cloreaseptic (spelling?) spray, which helped a bit. But what helped the most was him laying down and me on top, 69 it baby, you can go slow, in small steps, but push past the gag, use his kiss to distract you a little, then just go for it, even if it’s for a second, you keep pushing and practicing and you will find that it’s not so bad, your gag can be controlled, now listen to him moan with enjoyment that’s your 3rd push through the gag reflex, once you get past the 3rd try of doing it, well, I was amazed at myself! I gag just brushing my tounge and gargling and often choke on my spit! LoL Biggest thing is don’t rush, slow plunges in and down, take time to come up for air and let go! Hope that helps someone and Goodluck all, it’s worth it!
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I agree with HappyTurtle about the advantages of the 69 position. It is definitely the easiest position I have found for DT, except I do not actually straddle his face most of the time, I just kind of kneel/lay beside him with my elbows usually on either side of his hips so I am comfortable and my hands can participate. 🙂 I do this also because if he is giving me oral at the same time, I have a hard time concentrating (wonder why?…. Haha) and I can gag more easily.
My Sir and I pretty much got to work on DT as soon as we started having sex 9 years ago. It did not take me terribly long to get the hang of it, but it definitely takes a lot of practice to get really comfortable and rhythmic with it. I definitely find that it is much easier to avoid gagging if I am the one in control of depth and speed. If he takes control it is much harder to adapt and pace my breathing.
Another thing, his “size” will obviously make this more or less difficult. My Sir is well endowed; enough that I cannot breath through my nose at all when I DT. So I had to learn to take breaths when I can lol. If his size does not impede your breathing, you are a lucky little subby!
So for starting out, I would recommend 69 (or close to it like I do) and ask your Sir if you can take control of the pace and depth while you are learning.
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Love are these post! I love DT, it’s a turn on for us both. For me it’s all about hanging my head off the better, giving it to Sir to take it all. In this position Sir can also give me a little wand action. Yummie!
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My husband and I started similarly to Sugared Petunia and HappyTurtle. Very early in our D/s journey I wanted to be able to give all of myself to him to use in the ways that would please him best. He realized that while I was learning DT the process would go faster (because I would be more comfortable) if I controlled the physical action. He’s a laid back kind of guy and really enjoyed laying back and letting me do all the work orally pleasuring his member. Our standard way of doing DT is for him to lay on his back and for me to sit next to him just above his hip with his head and chest at my back, my front aimed at his feet. I am able to bend at the waist and suck him, using my hands to brace myself when needed. I would go down far enough to make myself gag slightly then take a few shallower strokes then try it again and that desensitized my need to gag. Along with stretching my abilities with his penis I also practice reducing my gag reflexes with the toothbrush trick and using my fingers. And I try to steer away from the couple of spots that are still gag sensitive.
I mostly gag now because I’ve got too much saliva in my mouth and I haven’t had a chance to swallow and take a breath for a bit (like SP, when his all the way in the back I can’t breathe at all). Through practice I’ve learned to use his penis on the downward stroke to help maneuver my saliva to the back of my mouth (I don’t seem to be able to just let it drool out and I salivate quite a bit) where I’m able to swallow it once I’ve taken the upward stroke and most of him is outside of my mouth. (It took me years at the orthodontist to learn to swallow with my mouth partially open; I never realized that it would come in handy.)
We’ve started having him take more active control now that I mostly know how to coordinate my breathing and swallowing between strokes. We’ll either have me kneel on a pillow with my back to the wall and a thin pillow behind my head, lay on my back with my head off the edge of the bed or 69 depending on his preference. We’ve developed hand signals on his leg so I can encourage him to go deeper or pull out. He (we) likes letting me gag slightly a couple of times before pulling out to let me swallow or breathe. I love feeling dominated and controlled. It takes time and practice and we are still learning how best to coordinate everything.
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While we’re discussing DT and oral – whenever I do this, I seem to get a really horrible runny nose. Any ideas how I can prevent that?
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Katilyn, I have not experienced this . But, here r my ❤️Shares:
Maybe try:
Blow your nose real good ahead of time
Make sure room ,you not too cold
Try head handing off bed upside down….my favorite..east do that way
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Kaitlyn – I have the same problem. Try a decongestant and/or antihistamine 30 minutes before, that might help. Curvysub gave good advice. I have allergies and so my husband is used to me asking if I can use a tissue beforehand.
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So glad I am not the only one who gags and gets a runny nose. I am sure my nose runs because I gag, then the tears start rolling and finally my nose LMAO.
Thanks for all the shares subbies, it was a great read. Now to get to practising… I am determined to give Sir the gift of a great DT. Though he loves the gagging and tears, so I am not totally convinced he wants me to master this skill lol
LG
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This is an amazing thread I am not new to oral but am to DT and have been struggling with gagging because Mr H does not like it when I do and he says I mustn’t. I will explain how I must train and practice and I know he will help. I have heard (see Sarah Millican British comedian) that humming removes the gag reflex but I have been struggling to remember to do it as Mr H is always touching me while he is in my mouth and I am sure you all know how distracting that is!
Thank you all – I am so glad I found this forum as a new D/s couple Mr H has joined the HusDom forum for advice too.
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