DD/bg

[little-sotto]

I am not a babygirl/little. However I am definitely interested to learn how it differs from a Dom/sub relationship. I have recently come across a lot of DaddyDom, babygirl and little blogs on tumblr. From what I understand babygirls and littles are two different things but both are subs with the mindset like a baby girl or a little girl. At least that is what I have come to understand from the blogs I have read.

I am excited for you and your Sir that you have found this out about your D/s. I will subport in any way I can. 🙂

[Kaninchen]

Sotto… I have a sub friend that can help you with your questions … I have asked her to come here and post on subject… Please keep checking back .. She will get back ASAP…

LK

[Kaninchen]

Hello…Great questions… I have a sub friend that can help you with your questions…. I have alerted her and please keep checking back she will answer ASAP… Thank you!!

LK

[cinnamon]

Hi Everyone! I will try to answer any questions you might have about DD/lg or DD/bg.

First thing to know is that not all babygirls identify as submissive. I do. In fact, I identify as a babygirl, a little girl, a submissive woman and a slave.
Thing about labels and humans, is that no one label fits all.

A babygirl is exactly as SirsDarling described- tender hearted and sees the world through a child’s eyes. Open, trusting, sense of wonder, playfulness, vulnerability are other qualities. We tend to be seen as needy. Emotional.

A little is someone who identifies with a certain age range of a child. I think of it as an inner child that was isn’t suppressed.

What makes this dynamic different than any other D/s or M/s relationship?
This is a generalization based on MY experiences and relationships…. Daddies can be stricter and have more rules than a typical Dom/Master. I have way more rules than any of my submissive friends. That’s ok with me. Actually, it is better than ok.
Daddy’s rules make me feel safe and secure.

A Daddy is nurturing and supportive. He is always there to tell me that I can do something. He believed in me when I didn’t even believe in myself.

Daddy lets me be silly with him. There are lines that I know better than to cross, but I can play with him and he loves the silly side of me.

He sees the little girl in me. He loves her, protects her, guides her, disciplines her, teaches her and makes her feel whole.

Other than this, my relationship looks a lot like any other D/s relationships. He is without question the boss. We practice rituals and protocols…. we have a very healthy sex life and we love S&M play.

Oh yes, babygirls can be masochists too.

[Kaninchen]

Phoenix, Thank you so much for explaining these differences… I really appreciate you giving your time to us all.

Many Hugs!

LK

[cinnamon]

I wrote this today for a fellow blogger who asked me to guest post about DD/lg…. It is what I wish people understood about my dynamic. Hopefully this answers questions as well.

I am a babygirl. I am a little girl. A daddy’s girl.

This is NOT age play for me. This is not role play. This isn’t something I do because I think it’s sexy and fun. ( Although it is )

There are age players who practice DD/lg, but like any other dynamic, we all do it differently.

For me, this is who I am.

I don’t have Daddy issues. I was a total Daddy’s girl growing up. My father always made me feel special and loved. He still does. I’ll always be my Daddy’s girl.

Some people think I’m into incest play because I call my lover Daddy. Nothing could be further from the truth. True, there are kinksters who are into that particular role play but it has nothing to do with DD/lg.

I have had people compare my “kink” to pedophilia. Again, nothing could be further from the truth. While I am child like in many ways, I am a fully grown woman. My Daddy is not sexually attracted to children. It’s highly offensive and ignorant for people to even compare the two.

Truth be told, I don’t even like to call this my kink. To me it’s as natural as breathing.

Recently someone called me a deviant. That hurt my feelings…..but then I realized that I needed to think about the word itself.

Deviant :Differing from a norm or from the accepted standards of a society.

Yes, I walk my own path from most of society. I don’t care. My path brings me the greatest happiness and peace I’ve ever known. If this makes me deviant, so be it.

So, what is to understand about DD/lg?

My whole life many people have called me little girl. It was never anything that any of us put conscious thought into….it’s just that they recognized that quality in me.

What’s the quality? What makes me a babygirl? A childlike innocence. Wonder. The trust of a child. An open heart. Vulnerability.

I know that I have always needed lots of attention and affection. Lots. Most ( maybe all ? ) babygirls do I think. It doesn’t matter if I’m on my knees, his lap, or just laying side by side with him… To have Daddy hold me, and stroke my hair is complete and total bliss.

I have a near obsessive desire to please. I don’t do or not do things because of punishment, although that is part of our dynamic. I behave as I do because I want him to be pleased with me… proud of me… and of course, I want to hear that I am a good girl.

Crazy ridiculous what I’d do to hear those two words… followed closely by other terms of endearment. Pumpkin, angel, princess, babydoll… I love them all. They are better than any material gift.

And if I displease him, I am crushed. The verbalization that I have disappointed him, along with seeing it on his face, completely destroys me. If I am punished, I will cry. More like bawl my eyes out… These tears are not about the pain ( although it hurts too ) They are about my sadness at displeasing him.

Regarding the above two- it goes without saying that this extends to sex. A babygirl wants her Daddy to feel good. She wants to be his Good Girl and will be as naughty and nasty as Daddy wants her to be. She just needs to know that it’s safe to be his naughty girl.

I’m a grown up. I can and do handle my adult responsibility… but it just feels so much better to have the guidance of a Daddy. There is comfort there. Security.

I am a babygirl because I want my D/s served with kisses and cuddles.

There is a special language between Daddy Doms and babygirls. Only one can ever truly recognize the other instinctually and fully.

A Daddy and a Babygirl need each other. Without one another they are unfinished. They are a wish. A desire. A thought. Only together do they experience true joy and completion.

[Kaninchen]

While our labels may be a little different… I soo understand all your wishes to please your Sir… We can all come together here and celebrate each other.. compare and learn from one another. I agree we all wear a little bit of each label.. usually there’s one label you can identify with most… I am a sexual submissive…. I identify mostly with that label. We all are working toward our dynamic making it strong and complete. We all enjoy BDSM ….. elements some more then others.. LOL!

Thank you for giving us a glimpse…. HUGS!! LK

Back-Story: Phoenix is a sub that has been out here in the blogosphere what at least 2 yrs now… She was kind to me since the beginning .. we traveled in our own realms out here but always connected and she has always been professional. She has experience & knowledge in certain areas and has much to offer in guidance.
LK

[sirsdarling]

Thank you…your replies have made a difference in my journey…not only do I share so much in common with the woman on this site but I have found someone like me…someone who understands and writes words as if they were my own. Happy Happy Happy…indeed it is not so much about our differences L.K. but our journey.

[little-sotto]

Phoenix thank you soooo much for sharing. I have never really thought about being a babygirl or a little. Being a newbie to this life I am still learning. Your post was so beautifully written and parts of it really resonated with me. Because of you sharing with us I come to a realization that I may be babygirl. I shared this with my Sir last night and after reading him your comments he said that in that context he would be interested in exploring that with me. He also says that your comments were beautiful written. While reading he could see me on some of the descriptions of you. Thank you Thank you Thank you!!! 🙂

[sirsdarling]

please keep us posted sottomesso on your findings….it is a very freeing experience to let your little out. xo

[cinnamon]

If any of you want DD/bg or DD/lg blogs to follow besides mine of course, let me know… I can post several with LK’s permission

[sirsdarling]

I had asked about differences in D/s from those of us who have DaddyDoms and those who don’t. I am finding more and more in common with all the subs and our D/s is not really that different. Perhaps it is more in the way Sir and I relate to one another…How we communicate. Perhaps his reponsibilities: I have a water quota and if he is not consistent on checking in on me i will slack off. If i don’t get punished, which i rarely do, i will tend to not follow protocol.. Last night i wore panties to bed and no one said a word…hmmm….maybe it is not the fact that Sir is a daddydom but it is his parenting style. sigh..that sounds perverted but it might relate. I welcome any comments and anyone using the DD/lg dynamic to message me or post…I always want to make friends. I have found the subs here to be wonderfully supportive and so smart. I feel like i fit in.

[Unknown Member]

I am glad I found this post. I agree that what Cinnamon posted explaining the DD/bg dynamic helps me to better understand what I am feeling as Sir and I start our journey in D/s-M. I am glad I have found a place where I can learn, grow and be accepted. Sir and I kind of stumbled upon this dynamic and it does seem to fit us well. While exploring on Husdom, Sir started experimenting with names for himself. Sir, Master, Daddy. We both agree Sir and Daddy work for us. (Master seemed a bit much for Sir) We are still very new and learning as we go, but I am definitely his babygirl.

[sirsdarling]

Hi hislove…eeeeeeee how exciting that you found husdom and my post. I too use both Daddy and Sir. Depending on how I feel and what it is about. My most natural response is now saying Daddy. It is a wonderful feeling to know you are “his” babygirl. We are finding out there is such a deep connection between Daddy and his babygirl, sadist and his masochist, and Sir and his sub…all provide deeper levels to bond upon. We keep things very playful and just recently found that rituals where i was to say certain words like a script was suffocating my little side and making me feel small. Now I have a little more freedom in performing my rituals for Daddy and making sure it comes from the heart. So glad to hear from you and hope to meet others in the dynamic as well.

[Unknown Member]

Hi guys 🙂 just came across this post in the forum and it has helped clarify so many of my questions 😀

I identify as a sub in a D/s relationship but realise after reading this that I sort of practice some aspects of the DD/bg dynamic too. (Although I don’t feel comfortable thinking of my spouse as my Daddy because I am currently living with my parents). I too have water quotas and have to be talked to about safety and dressing modestly (love the condescending conversations).

Andy spouse has called himself my Daddy on more than one occasion over the past 5 years so perhaps there’s something unexplored or talked about in our dynamic at the moment :p

[sirsdarling]

Hi Annika, I am so glad the post helped answer some questions. This dynamic is very misunderstood. I will share that Sir and I live with my parents (winter is our wonderland because they travel) lol. When in their presence actually call my Sir by his given name. Daddy is very private but I use it more and more. Sir is more public. It is very interesting that your spouse calls himself your Daddy- he must see that little babygirl side of you? know you need some special attention? I would love to talk about the aspects of the DD/bg aspect you practice. Message me anytime….I love your profile pic….so cute.

[littlegirlkn]

Thank you so much for this site!

Recently, I felt my relationship with my husband of 16 years slipping away. I am a disabled, SAHM of 4 beautiful children, 2 of whom are grown now. For the better part of the last 10 years, I’ve also homeschooled our children.

I have been Mother, Wife, Doctor, Teacher, Disiplinarian, and Friend to all in my family. I’ve also been a confidante, mentor, and the one everyone comes to when they need a shoulder to cry on.

Somewhere along the way, I forgot who “I” was. I didn’t have the luxury of falling apart. I was supposed to be the strong one.

After reading FSOG, I realized what was missing in my life. I NEEDED someone to take control from me for a while. I talked with my husband about my needs, and he agreed to try it, on a weekend only basis for now, although he is uncomfortable with some of the aspects of the lifestyle he’s read about on other sites.

We agreed to a Daddy/bg relationship, at least for the time being, until he is more comfortable asserting control. Truth be told, I enjoy the gentle dominance he has over me, but I do wish he would be more assertive.

The problem is, he’s not a very vocal person. I hate asking him for what I want or what he wants me to do for him, for I feel like this is topping him, and I want to be a good babygirl for my Daddy.

How can I get him to assume a more Dominant role, without breaking from my station? I do want this to work, but I do not want to dominate him.

Any insite into this would be greatly appreciated.

With my humblest gratitude,

LittlegirlKN

[Unknown Member]

LittlegirlKN, I am glad to hear he is willing to try that is always a great first step. Just like anything else it takes time to get it exactly where you want it. I can suggest this, it is something my Daddy started requesting of me with my new routine. Every week I have to come up with 3 ways to better feed him Dom then on Saturday I have to present a scene idea to him. Then he chooses whether or not we use them. Gives him an insight to what I want but leaves the end decision to him so I am not topping from the bottom. Also if you guys are very new at this relax….you will get there. Daddy and I have been at this for 7 months and just recently started to really feel like it is coming together. He is more comfortable and we are going 24/7 now. Hope that helps you some and welcome to the site 🙂

[sirsdarling]

LittlegirlKN, I have found this site to be a relationship builder. You will find and make friends here for we all have commonalities. I have found that dominance comes in many forms and takes time to grow into. I also have had to grow into my submission. I help my sir find his dominance when i am sitting quietly on my mat when he arrives home. I ask if I may help him take his shoes off, I ask if there is anyway i might please him and if he has no answer then I ask him if I can rub his feet. In my opinion a good girl desires to please her Sir. Sometimes as woman we know how to do that without our Man telling us. I love to stir my Daddy’s desires and that is never topping in our relationship. As hislove pointed out -you will get there- it is a journey. I like how hislove gives her Sir choices. Make life easier. Feed him and surrender and it will come.
nice to meet you.
darling

[cslim]

YES!!! YAY! I have found the forum topic I have been looking for!!! Mr calls me His Baby Girl, and he said he’s my Daddy, also used sexually, ‘Give it to daddy, cum for Daddy, Good girl’, or, when he’s working on me “you’re a bad girl” I haven’t been able to bring myself to call him that yet, I am not very verbal, VERY shy verbally. He was asking me if I’m HIS Baby girl, and made me promise that I am his baby girl. I love it. Mr said he will take care of me. I call him Mr to everyone else, Vanilla friends, pretty much everybody, I haven’t really even called him anything yet, this is so new, and also the shy verbal thing is stunting me I think… Mr saw those qualities in me that were beautifully written in previous comments. I am needy, I do have an overwhelming desire to please him. I got really worried and cried when he didn’t call, I thought he didn’t want me, or forgot about me, I told him when he did contact me, he said he was sorry, twice, then when we saw each other face to face, he said I was acting up, but said it very light heartedly. I think he was trying to be mad when he first saw me again, but I went running up to him with a big smile on my face I was so happy to see him, and he lit up with a huge smile, and we greeted like we usually do <3 Sometimes the way I express myself in daily life is unchecked, unfiltered, I don’t care if something I’m saying or doing seems silly, when I do or say something like that he lights up with the biggest smile. At first it was “Baby” WHich is quite normal, even for Vanillas, but then it was baby girl, and he introduced it during sex, and then he was Daddy. I am thinking this is where TTWD is heading <3 SO grateful for this post, the comments, and this Site, and this community!!! <3