-
Being in The Moment
I have been quite open about how difficult it can be for me to let go and orgasm, and my honesty has been possible because LK runs such a safe, subportive and friendly site. I have felt safe enough to be very frank knowing I wouldn’t be judged as well as knowing that i’m not unique. I like to do research because I have intellectual curiosity so came across this report:
In summary it states
that women who were diagnosed with anorgasmia, an inability to orgasm even after stimulation, had a larger distance between their clitoral glans and body, and the vaginal opening. In all, the distance was about five to six centimeters longer — on average, the crura and body can be up to 10 centimeters — and these women also tended to have smaller clitorises.
However it also states that some problems can be “psychosocial”.
Now what does this have to do with play?
Well the article also mentions Orgasmic Meditation. Now this could be a vanilla, or a warm up for some delicious spanking and toy play. Here is how to do it
I might give it a go before my next scene
-
4 Replies
-
LadyBird, here’s a book that has given me lots of ideas to help me ease into becoming a fully orgasmic woman. I struggled for years with learning to just let go.
The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women” by Mikaya Heart.
Hope it helps some.
-
Ladybird, my Sir and I use Orgasmic Meditation as a “vanilla” activity before we play sometimes. I have pretty hard time clearing my mind and relaxing and this does help.
As we move forward we have added BDSM into our Om’ing, mostly rope bondage and blindfolds this helps build the anticipation which for me is what gives the earth shattering O’s. Again this is more about helping me be in the moment so I have to concentrate on just breathing and relaxing.
I hope this helps or at least gives some ideas.
-
It certainly does! Thanks Schatzl 🙂
-
-
Hi LadyBird,
a while back I was having a hard time letting go as well. I am proof that it can get better… I understand that it isn’t a good idea to be drunk or even close when practicing D/s, however I enjoy a little weed here and there, I believe my first squirting O was achieved while having had a little, it just lets my mind enjoy what body is feeling and helps lower my inhibitions… Now I achieve my squirting O’s anytime my sir wants them because I’ve been able to learn to not worry as much in bed… the thing I’ve been enjoying since being on this site is learning to kneel and getting into a worry free zone while I’m there, it helps me center myself and in a way give myself permission to enjoy the experience….
hope this was helpful, I know this is what helps me and again I don’t have it all the time but sometimes
Log in to reply.