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Ask your Sir to help plan your day
I am sure that I am no different than everyone else, a million thoughts, ideas and plans running through my head for the day of things to conquer and accomplish. Before embracing this lifestyle, I had already positioned myself to check in with MrG about the upcoming day. He listened to the 1000 things I thought I could do for the following day and would kindly suggest only focusing on a few. I have now learned to ask him what is something I can do in the day that makes his life easier. He will ask me to do something simple like focus on cleaning for an hour(our house is up for sale) or do some paperwork/phone calls for him but often when I check back in with him that day, he can “read” my mood and the focus or task needs to be different. Go relax with our boys in the hot tub, read in your bedroom, take a walk, go be with a friend is often his command then. He knows the storms of life right now threaten to take me to dark places and he protects me from them. He knows that I will be stronger in time but for now, I rest in complete peace knowing that he holds my heart next to him.
My advice…don’t be afraid to ask how you can help make his day easier. I bet you will be surprised that it will be simple like, take a bath or nap so you are relaxed and happy when he gets home. Or maybe it will be scrub the microwave out cause it really bugs him, haha.
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This is a brilliant suggestion! Thank you for sharing. I’m gonna go text my Sir right now!
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Very nice, Cherished. It is such a beautiful thing when we begin to recognize that serving our Sirs isn’t always about doing the dishes or giving them a blowjob, ( Not that I’m knocking either…lol) It was a huge realization for me when I finally connected that taking care of me, protecting me, providing for me, helping me…these are some of the greatest things I can allow Sir to do for me. I used to feel bad if I wasn’t running around like a nut every moment of the day. I never took time to do anything foor myself, and it showed in my attitude and my inability to relax…even at Sir’s side. I would get angry and pouty if he did something that I perceived as “my job”, which was pretty much everything. In time, and in many DT discussions, I leearned that the best way to feed his dominance was to accept his help. Sometimes that means letting him to the dishes, sometimes it means accepting his command to go take a hot bath and chill out, even though there are so many things running through my mind that I “should” be doing. Being able to trust him with this was huge for me.
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