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Aftercare and ending scenes/playtime
Hello, sub sisters. I have a question about aftercare. Wwhat does it look like for you? Is aftercare only set aside for only those heavier scenes where you are in subspace or is it provided every time you play? When does your sir use aftercare, and what does he do? Is aftercare an emotional rest button for you? My other question is about ending scenes. I have a hard time after either a light play session or a heavier scene in turning it all off and returning to “normal”. It seems that things just come to an abrupt end in my mind. How do your Sirs end scenes and bring you back to yourself? is there something you say to yourself or some way you flip your switch? Thanks! Angelica
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Hello Angelica,
Sorry it’s taken me three days to respond, but better late than never! lolIn response to your 1st question:
Aftercare to us depends on what has just transpired. I don’t usually require aftercare after playtime. Playtime for us is more fun, exploring, practicing with new toys or implements…there is power exchange, but not usually TPE like in a scene. I don’t go into sub-space during playtime, so by the end I usually feel like we just had really GREAT sex and I don’t require a whole lot of attention afterward-I am usually just ginning from ear to ear and glowing with sex and sweat!After a scene aftercare depends on the level of intensity during the scene. I usually feel cold and tired; so Sir will wrap me in a blanket, apply Arnicare if he feels it necessary, bring me water and then he will usually lay beside me a stroke my back while I “pass out” for a few minutes. He bases the level of aftercare on how I am acting once he releases me (removing my play collar) from the TPE. Sometimes I need more and sometimes I don’t need as much…but that comes from being aware and taking responsibility for what just happened during the scene.
In response to your 2nd question:
I do not have difficulty returning to normal after a scene and I think that is because Sir does a good job with aftercare and checking in with me after a scene. I also trust him completely during scenes and know that he is going to care for me afterward. Our ritual of collaring and removing the collar to release me helps as well I think…the rituals let my brain “know” when things are beginning and when they are ending. He has at times waited to release me until after the aftercare…after he knows that I have my wits about me. I am not expected to “flip a switch” by Sir…he waits for me to come back, taking care of me for however long I need.Hope this helps!
Smooches,
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Thanks, V. It helps alot! 🙂
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