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Aftercare
Aftercare: Questions and Answers:
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Aftercare: In the sexual practice of BDSM, aftercare is the process of attending to one another after intense feelings of a physical or psychological nature relating to BDSM activities. BDSM experiences can be exhausting; and drain the participants of mental, emotional or physical energy. …
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What sort of aftercare actions does every one usually take? Recently I was putting together a sort of kit for after care since after a scene I am usually unable to move let alone walk. So it made me wonder besides lotions, blankets and maybe some food what things or activities does aftercare usually involve for everyone? Also any suggestions for lotions to help with swelling and bruising? Thanks for any input.
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Master Grey is my guardian angel for aftercare! He ALWAYS holds me tightly for some time till I can make some sort of sense. The thing he has found that has grounded me the best for after care is lots of comfort, love, soft kiss’s followed by a hot bath of salts and lavender oil. Then lots of lotion, I make my own lotion which I LOVE so can’t help ya with a brand but I can share my recipe if you want it. =0) We keep lots of healthy snack stuff on hand like mixed nuts and dried fruits or toast and nutella (mmm chocolate) to munch on afterwards till I can handle heavy foods. (about a hour or so after for me) Sometimes we talk about everything shortly after if I’m “emotional” otherwise we wait till the next day to talk about things. I have a hard time remembering everything that happens in a scene sometimes for up to a couple days. But that’s me, not sure how that works for others. I personally need lots of contact with Master Grey for several hours afterward even if I’m sleeping. If he tries to get up and use the bathroom or something he says I pout and whine. He says it’s cute lol! Master Grey is more than My Husdom, he is My Guardian Angel, My Watch Dog, My Hero, My Best Friend, My Love, My Soul Mate. Thank Master for all of your HusDom, Love and tender loving care you give. I love you and Thank you Muah! xoxo
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We use and arnica salve for bruising i believe it also comes in lotions. Aftercare so far has consisted of flavored fizzy water in a non spill sports style bottle or cup (i don’t even want to sit up after)
and snuggling under blankets i usually fall asleep. Mostly i nest up against Miss’s chest while she kisses my head and runs her fingers lightly across my back and shoulders. -
After a rough session I was not responding well to my Sir. He said I was distant. I think I felt a little mad or something. I can’t say for sure. He would make tell me to breathe and wrap me in my blanky when the chills came.. He was moving fast and everything seemed too fast and stressed. It turns out this after care was for him: making sure I was okay. He would ask how I felt and perhaps not understand why I did not feel wonderful like he die. I have just given everything to my Sir and I am left numb, a little empty, and not always knowing what all happened. I gave him all my energy so he is bouncing. We talked and he understands now. He has since slowed down and rubbed my muscles, stretched out my legs, and let me know that ‘Yes, i was hurting and it was okay. He appreciated me and understood. I think before he did not want to acknowledge to me I was hurt. Please don’t misunderstand hurt -it is not abuse-after he has used me. We tried the bath afterwards and it made a big difference. It allows me to come back to him slowly. Just recently he gave me a wonderful orgasm afterwards and I was extremely happy with that aftercare.
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