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patients paid off
Okay we started this adventure 6 or 7 years ago (we don’t agree and this isn’t new, we still don’t agree what day we started dating either). At first he was shocked to say the least and it was mostly bedroom. I of course wanted more and proceeded to drag him along for the ride. This failed, horribly. However we still kept things in place what had been and kept moving along at a snails pace. It drove me bonkers. I wanted the spanking and bondage. I wanted to all night scenes and fun leather items to play with. He didn’t want to hurt me.
He was raised to treat his wife like a princess by his father. So now his wife is asking one this but his father had taught him very differently, it didn’t matter how much I dragged or wanted to pleaded..I realized two things. One that I wasn’t submitting to him and I wasn’t trusting him either. See every time we talked he would say he was trying and explain his issues, I heard him but I didn’t listen..not at first. Do you see where I am going here. Communication is key but half that is listening, really listening. It was a game changer and still 3 years ago.
He is so slow..lol. Not really once I got out of our way things started to change. It wasn’t this big wake up to a whole new dynamic change, it was gradual over months time. Some things that he asked for were so very small, coffee ready for him when I wake him up. I mean that is so simple to do but for him is was a big thing. Okay I can do this, he just wants a bunch of small things.
Those little things have added up over the years and he has grown in his confidence in our new relationship dynamic. I love seeing new Dom traits come out and watch as our dynamic is still changing and growing right along with him. I am as well, it gave me a chance to examine myself as well and everyone has grown.
So the point of all my rambling writing it don’t be discouraged if things are going slow at some points, slow is still moving forward. There were a few times I wanted to just say forget it and be a vanilla brat. Very glad I didn’t because it was worth the wait……he finally spanked me and not only did I love it but he surprised me with it..which was wonderful…but he enjoyed it as well.
Years I have waited for this and I am once again finding myself wanting to run and drag him along but I know that is not the way for us. I will calm myself down as he says and let him lead us along this journey to whatever fun corners he wants to explore next.
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