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Nightly ritual-A passing of the torch of sorts
So Lk suggested I write about a ritual that has been a recent addition to our D/s. See, I have a really hard time since going all in with TTWD about not being with my sir. I have no clue where this neediness came from but it’s there and it’s hard. When we recommitted and really started focusing sir came up with a few rules and rituals, some stuck such as walking on his right side, opening doors etc. what I would consider basic beginnings. I started writing sir notes and placing them in his work pants and home shorts everyday. He loves it and I get to always show my love, submission and feed him by doing this. He has a whole bunch and saves every single one in a lock box. I write them every day so it is fresh and relive the to my current feelings at that time. Some are sweet, some are dirty, some are cheesy but they are all me and help me express myself.
On a normal basis when sir comes home from work at 10:30pm I greet him and take his lunch bag, we have our kissing ritual ( mouth, Eskimo, nose kisses, forehead kisses) then I fix his plate and get his drink and listen to him tell me about his day. Recently he has added that I need to remove his belt, he prefers when I am sitting 😉 and I am to unbuckle it and pull it out and hand it to him. He then gives me a smack on the ass with it. This is a simple process but means the world as I have been working all day and heading up the house and kids at night. This creates a feeling of being able to let go, hand him over the reigns now that he is home.
The hope is that this can give other subbies an idea of what we are doing along in this journey.
What is your passing of the torch rituals?
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I’m so glad LK suggested you share. I love the kissing ritual, sounds cute and connective. As far us, our nightly ritual is once the kids are in bed, I kneel for Sir to collar me. Then he does push ups or pull ups while I remain kneeling and watch. Then he helps me back up and we hug. Throughout the day, we have other rituals. Sir chooses my panties every day of the work week and sends me daily tasks. I am also required to send Sir a daily photo by 9 am so he can compliment me. These help us stay connected throughout the day.
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</div>We have become quite ritualistic over the past year and it’s mainly on the insistence of my Sir. We have adopted several of the suggestions discussed here and others and although I sometimes resist the regularity of them I do love how they make me feel. One is journaling. I am just about through my first journal which has been an incredible communication tool. My Sir insists on one entry per day even if it’s brief. It is a place I can write everything I am either reluctant to discuss out loud (perhaps an xxxfantasy or some submissive desire) and is always available to Him. This is a ritual I complete every night just before bed.
We began a daily kneeling ritual which has been quite intense. My Sir insists on this and since we are alone now (no kids!) and have the privacy it’s just about always me being naked. I sometimes get a bit squirrely especially when it’s holiday time and I have a zillion things not yet done while kneeling quietly at His feet. I can see the laughter in my Sir’s eyes watching me want to bolt and make cookies but He insists we take a break from everything and do this to reconnect even for just a few moments.
These ritualistic practices really feed my submission and I am more than sure my Sir’s Dominance is fed a well. They work for us.
hugs!
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Y’all have some wonderful stories! I am wanting to incorporate more rituals and have to say while I need to be journaling I have fallen off that wagon. The last few days have been tough even with them as the kids are always here due to school breaks. Thank you for sharing your stories with me! I will be adding this to DT to discuss with ML. ☺️
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I love your rituals! They sound so comfortable and comforting. 🙂
Sir and I are planning to discuss creating a new “2020” ritual during our New Year’s downtime and I think I might suggest writing notes.
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Thank you! I really do love doing it. He never expected it and was so thrilled and happy the first few times. Then I just kept going, sometimes I get distracted and he will wave his pants and I run and do it. It allows me to keep him on my mind all the time and be creative in telling him how much he means to me. I think it would be a great nye DT talk!
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