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Submissive equals monogamous?
Hi
I’m new to the D/s world, husband too. We been married for almost 30 years and were very vanilla because due to lack of communication didn’t know we both craved the same thing. He’s my husDom and I’m his wife/sub. But one of his Male (typical)fantasies is a threesome. And he asked if he could collar someone else to. I told him NO! I explained being collared to me was a sacred bond especially in marriage and shouldn’t be taken lightly. I don’t feel comfortable with a threesome either. Involving the woman he wanted to collar. Am I wrong for feeling this way?
Confused but definitely lean to monogamy. I’m into kink but with one man only. Your take? -
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Hi Melly!
SubMrs and husDom are MONOGAMOUS communities. You will NEVER receive advice to seek a third on either side. While is it normal to have those fantasies, we feel very strongly about working on your marriage and intimacy while being monogamous. There are ways to fulfill that fantasy to a degree without needing a 3rd person. You can be taken multiple ways using a dildo and some fun role playing. Do not ever compromise your core beliefs.
Because this community is specific to marriage (or long term relationships) and monogamy we do not encourage or allow for the discussion of any other type of relationship. There are other communities out there for people seeking something outside of what is offered here.
Join us in the subMrs chat! We would love to get to know you and encourage your submission!
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subMarie -
Hello Melly. Your not wrong in your feelings. I also feel collared and married are sacred. I also think its human nature to have those menagerie fantasies. I agree with Marie, there are lots of ways to fulfill those type of fantasies without the addition person. I would ask for more information from your Dom on what his fantasies are. The two of you could explore how to create parts of those fantasies through, roleplay, costumes,toys. Use it as a tool to grow your relationship together. Just my 2cents. I wish you the best of luck.
Jsbunny -
I agree Melly, I hope you and your Sir were able to have a good discussion about this and have found a way around the bump in the road. When my husband and I were first married I was confronted with the same sort of situation as you have been, it was a big ole’ NOPE from me. There is a special bond between Dominant and submissive, and iI think when the two are married that becomes even stronger. While each relationship is unique, it’s important that both be on board when it comes to rules about monogamy. When I explained myself to my husDOM all those years ago he was able to understand and respect that bond.
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