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Collaring
Question for all of you….
The collar- Is is supposed to be a necklace? Ive always seen the collar worn around the neck. My sir gave me a collar but it’s ankle bracelet. Im not sure what to make of it cause I do not feel like its a im his statement, more of a not to be seen kind of thing.
Have anyone ever seen the collar in this fashion? Is it appropriate to share with him if it is supposed to be a neck collar if that is the case??
Thanks all for your help! Im new to the site and have so many questions
** 1SoftKitten05 **
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9 Replies
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I’ve seen it be rings, bracelets, anklets and necklaces. I am sure he is just trying to keep the collar discreet for your benefit. But it never hurts to ask if you have doubts.
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The collar is supposed to whatever is significant between you and your Sir. I have a bracelet that I wear all of the time, its locked on. I have several “collars” that I wear. Sometimes Sir picks out which one I should wear but most of the time I decide which one…as long as it is one he has purchased for me. One time he went on an extended trip and tied a piece of string around one of my ankles and told me not to take it off until he got home. That actually got more questions than most of my collars ever did.
Hugs Y’all
pearl -
I would encourage you to not get caught up in what other people’s collars look like. My first collar was an old necklace that I had already owned for years. It became a collar when Sir put it on my neck, told me to leave it there because it represented our renewed dynamic to him. For awhile, I wore a bracelet with Sir’s initials that was his since he was a little boy. I don’t have a ankle bracelet, but I would LOVE to have one because it would be reminiscent of being shackled. What it really boils down to is that your “collar” is a representation of your commitment to one another, and it can come in any form your Sir likes. 🙂
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Hi there. I’m going to agree with everyone here. It really is just what ever works for the two of you. I had eating in Masters birthstone for the first year. Then an ankle bracelet. I got my neck collar a good year and a half in. I still wear the earring most of the time. The anklet bracelet never comes off. It’s broken twice and Master fixed and put it back. My neck one has been changed out several times due to wear. But each one of these is special to me. I feel like whatever he presents to you is his claim of you to wear with pride.😊
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A collar can be anything, really, since it’s the physical sign/reminder of the dynamic of your relationship so it will always be unique to you. 🙂
I wear locking bracelets, and I know my Sir has mentioned that he might gift me with locking anklets at some point in the future. I actually appreciate the bracelets more than I would something around my neck because I see/feel/hear my bracelets all the time… Every time I move the computer mouse, or raise my hand, or whatever it may be, they remind me of my submission. Plus, they can be used for quick binding while still seeming very “vanilla jewelry”.
If YOU feel like a collar on your neck would enhance your submission, maybe bring it to your Sir during downtime? Explain what you hope to have happen, how a play collar (so not necessarily an every day item but something more functional) could be used between you, and then see where he goes with that?
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Thank you for bringing this subject up. I was collared in April of this year after almost 20 years of D/s-M. Before this I always wore an anklet but it wasn’t a formal thing, just jewelry really. We have constantly tweaked our dynamic for various reasons at different times but a year ago we made a new F/A. Until then we had so much going on that giving our relationship our all has been a challenge. At this point in life we began to make changes so we could focus on our D/s-M in a way we never had time to in the past.
My Sir picked out the collar and had it made by an artist from his Scandinavian homeland. It took a few weeks to arrive and in the meantime my Sir had me wear a ‘temporary’ collar which was bought at a craft shop to get me used to wearing a solid metal ring on my neck. I was very apprehensive because I never ever wear anything around my neck. I wasn’t sure I could adjust but to my surprise it went okay.
When the collar arrived I thought I would be waiting until our anniversary by to my surprise after a scene he instructed me to leave my blindfold in place and sit up. He placed it around my neck and as amazing as it sounds everything changed for us at that moment. I never imagined the collar would make such an impact on our dynamic but since it was placed around my neck my submission rose 150%. I no longer question anything about my submission now whereas before there was always a question. Being collared really made a difference for us.
Wearing it 24-7 helps me feel connected to my Sir. It also makes me feel loved and cherished. We could not have done collaring until we were both ready and it took time. My feelings about collaring is it’s what works for you. I didn’t know this would be so important to us but it turned out to be just the symbol we needed to take us to the next level.
I need to give credit to subMRS for all the blogs and posts and help. Thank you all so much (especially LK!)
warmly
elskling -
So many wonderful responses and options.
My first “collar” was an anklet. Then I received a collar around my neck. Next was my heart tattoo… then I got day cuffs to wear. I got another tattoo before last year’s retreat, and at the retreat, My Yankee rewarded me with my new collar.
I think maybe, we might have too many expectations of what is a “proper” collar and symbol of our dynamic. Realistically, it is just as stated above – a representation of the dynamic and relationship between you and your Sir – what is unique to you two.
And, he may just want to start out simple and small… chat with him… see what his thoughts are.
I hope this helps!
hugs!
~ dixie
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There are a lot of posts back and someone may have already said this but an anklet is a pure and true sign of being owned. The anklet is the most beautiful way for a dominant to collar a submissive/slave. In royalty, the beautiful concubines and slave girls wore beautiful anklets. Anklets are one of the oldest ways for a woman to show her ownership to someone. ☺️🥰💕 you are a truly blessed submissive. You have a wonderful Dominant. I hope you treasure your anklet and wear it with high honor and respect to your Sir.
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Saw this pop up in my email but haven’t had a chance to get back to it to share what Sir bought for me when we couldn’t find a necklace we both felt was perfect for the symbolism of collaring/ownership/commitment etc. I fell in love with this bracelet and so did he. It’s bold enough for us to feel the weight of the meaning but stylish enough to wear every day.
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