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Embracing my new role…but
Hi. My husband and I have been married 19 years. He officially asked me to be his sub about, a whole week ago. In hindsight, we have always (unknowingly, at least to me) had a type of D/s relationship. It was just our natural dynamic. He comes by his dominance naturally and I am very timid and quiet. He uses the term meek. We have played with roles in the bedroom for years. I just found out that he has wanted this type of relationship with me our entire marriage but wanted me to find my way into it on my own. He wanted me to willingly submit and was afraid if he just out and out brought it up my timidity would cause me to just agree. I LOVE my new role, but am struggling immensely. All of our friends are SUPER straight laced and traditional. When Sir told me I (we) needed a community I froze in fear. Of course my first thought was that we were going to end up at an orgy with people covered in latex on any given vanilla Tuesday. Sir assured me that was not what he meant 😂. I am struggling to find out how I fit into this. Not so much my role with him, it has mostly come pretty naturally. But how I fit into a community. Sir asked me to make it a priority today and reach out. Y’all this is so out side my comfort zone, I can’t even express. But Sir asked and I am eager to please him and Love that he cares enough about this side of me and wants to make sure I am fulfilled in all aspects. I need to connect and that does not come naturally to me.
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Welcome Sweetpea. It is very nice to meet you. We have all been where you are and I hope you find our community helpful and welcoming. I hope to chat with you the next time you are on line. We laugh and share our journeys together.
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Welcome Sweetpea!! You came to the right place. We are all just regular people with special twist to our relationships. I have been on site since last fall and the subbies here have been warm, welcoming, helpful and just alot of fun. Its important to find friends to talk to who understand where your coming from. It’s why I was so excited to find this community when I did. Sir and I have been Ds for 6yrs now but like you our friends are pretty straight laced. This site and these subbies have truly be a God send for me. Welcome to the tribe🤗. I look forward to getting to know you on chat.
Jsbunny -
Welcum to subMrs, Sweetpea!!!!
Your comment, “to end up at an orgy with people covered in latex on any given vanilla Tuesday” made me laugh! I wear latex on Thursdays too!!! Just kidding! LOL!!
If you are married and monogamous then you found your tribe! Many of us here are very similar to you. We are just your normal, everyday average people who want to add that magical spark to their marriage with some naughty kinkery. I have been active with subMrs for two years now. I can honestly say I know that our marriage would not be this incredible without the sub-port I have received here. HusDom is equally awesome for our Sirs and Dommes. I can’t wait to talk to you some more in chat!
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subMarie -
Hi Sweetpea!
You have found your community! I haven’t been involved long but have found the members here to be very accepting, knowledgeable, kind and helpful. I encourage you to begin reading LK’s posts – you will find a wealth of information. I also encourage your husband to go on husDOM. Together, you and your husband will find what works for your relationship – each one is unique. I too am submissive naturally and ALL of our friends are straight laced and traditional. They would think I am the same. They would be shocked to learn that I was the one who brought this idea to our marriage wanting ‘more’ submissiveness and more leading from him. (submissiveness on a different level – a choice/gift that is given) This lifestyle is new for us and I struggled with whether or not it was ‘right’. My husband didn’t struggle as much! 🙂 I have come to the conclusion it IS right for us in our marriage relationship. We are happy. We are learning and growing. We are more in love than ever.
So Sweetpea, welcome! I have every expectation you too will feel very safe and comfortable here! I look forward to hearing more from you.
Blessings,
Amatory -
Sweetpea, thank you so much for your introduction! I am glad you found us. This is a safe, caring environment that nurtures marriages. I have never had the kind of support I have here. I have been on subMrs almost a year and it feels like I have known these subbies a lifetime! I have never once felt uncomfortable sharing with anyone here. I have found friends here who will laugh with me, cry with me and give me an occasional kick in the subbie butt if needed 🙂 You will find the same! I would recommend that in addition to reading everything you can on subMrs, go on chat often and join in on live chats whenever you can. You will see that we are mostly normal :)! Feel free to message me if you have any questions. HG
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Ladies, thank you so much! I can’t express how excited I was to read your responses. It’s great to know that I am not alone. You all seem so very sweet and genuine. I look forward to getting to know you all better. Sir was very pleased to find out I had reached out and rewarded me well for doing so. Hope you all are having a wonderful Saturday. I will be trying to join you in the chat rooms this evening while Sir is working, as soon as I figure out how… I’m not tech savvy.
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Welcum to subMrs Sweetpea! If you are looking for subport you have come to the right place. LK has an amazing community here. Don’t be afraid to jump in on the chat and come to the live chats when you can. They are always a lot of fun. I’m so glad you found us. Maybe I’ll catch you on the chat soon. XOXO🌹BellaRose
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Sweetpea, WELCUM!!!
I loved your intro! We are all pretty “normal” or whatever that is… We have all been moved out of our comfort zones in this lifestyle, but usually end up loving it. our conversations here will cover so many topics that we all go through so you will always have sub-port! Your tribe is here and you have found your people, lol, don’t be afraid to lean on us all! -
Hi Sweetpea!
I’m so glad you took the risk, reached out, and found us! I know how scary it can be to open a door and walk through into the unknown, but honestly… This is not only a safe place for you, it’s a wonderfully supportive tribe of beautifully unique and sometimes silly submissives who are more than happy to welcome you to the party.
I’m looking forward to getting to know you (we missed each other in chat yesterday by an hour or so) and sharing this journey together. 🙂
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