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Not glamorous, but he said yes :-D
Hey subbies! 11,5 years ago I knew I wanted to make it official, although I always said I would never marry. Never change my name, never submit to any man. I never did; I actually had a dominant role in short burst relationships. Then I met him. A home owner with a steady job, a weekly soccer training with the same guys he played with as a kid. Not the bad boy I normally fell for, but he had a wicked smile and we had the same humor. 5 months later I proposed and changed my name. About a year ago we saw FSOG and something hit me inside. Like I saw the missing piece of the puzzle on the screen. We talked and discussed and added some kink into the bedroom. A few months ago I told him I ached for more, but getting started outside the bedroom seemed so hard, especially with a busy family life and the building of our new home. I found subMrs and directed him to HusDOM and I read about formal acceptance. 3 weeks after moving into our new build home we finally finished our bedroom yesterday and could move in there. No more sharing space with the kids without doors for privacy, but our own space. This was it. Yesterday afternoon when we set up the bed I knew I had to do it. Last night we walked the dog, like we always do at night. I made sure I had cleaned my face and brushed my teeth before we went out, so I could immediatly slip upstairs, undress and kneel besides the bed before he came into the room. Stark-naked on our freshly layed tiles that I scrubbed a few hours earlier I asked him to sit on the bed because I wanted to say something. He sat down and I started to ramble. Oh my, this was really scary! I cut myself short and just asked him if he wanted to be my Dom. I guess he thought it was a topic starter, because he started a conversation. What, how long, just for a couple of days to try, did I really want this, is this me, what to do, etc, etc. I told him that I wanted him to be my Dom, for now and forever, as long as we both enjoy it and consent and ended with ‘this question is like a proposal, honey. I’m really anxious for your answer’. His face opened up in a grin and he said ‘Oh, shit, sorry. I didn’t realise. Off course I want to babe! Now come in bed and let me warm you up.’ And now… I need to prepare for our first Downtime that he wants to have tonight and every night for a while until we figure out how to do this. <3 xx Daantje
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Thanks for sharing your story! I love how we as women often have a scenario of how a conversation will go and then we have to be flexible and yes, redirect when necessary to back to the question. Your poor knees on the tiles 🙂 What a brave, brave girl you are. That’s a long time to be determined to never to be in this role. I bet he was thrilled! When I finally broached the subject, my Sir said “I have been waiting for years for you to let me take care of you”
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Ow… that made me tear up. What a great response of your Sir!
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Love love love this. Thankyou so much for Sharing your special moment. I adore your Sirs response💞
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This is so beautiful. Thank you for sharing, Daantje!
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Daantje,
What a wonderful new beginning in your new home! You are already making memories that you both will forever cherish. Asking formal acceptance is so emotional. No matter how much you prepare or practice I believe your truest heartfelt feelings just pour out. It is such a life changing moment.
I’m looking forward to getting to know you and to be a spectator to your growth as a subMrs!
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