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Returning to the Dynamic
Hey all, Both myself (the worst of us) and Sir are just now getting over a month long illness: Him a cold and ear infection; and me, bronchitis. Sir expressed to me this morning that we really need to get back into the dynamic by any means, slowly with the sexual stuff, but more so in everyday life. It pretty much took a back burner while I was really sick. While I am not bedridden or actively sick, things that require more exertion, still knocks me down a notch. What can we do to help get back into our dynamic? Sir believes it’s primarily his fault because he had not been enforcing it, but requiring me to rest at least. Now that I’m 85% better, He wants to pick things back up for everyday life. How do you guys “restart” after being off for so long? We tried here and there while I was sick, but we both really don’t know how to move forward appropriately. Do we just pick up where we lift off, like sickness never happened? Thanks, subbies!
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Hey MrsM
That’s what I would do, pick up where you left off. I was sick for a week Sir put on his Daddy Dom hat and looked after me. Once I was on my feet I started back up. We have had stops that lasted much longer due to vanilla life. Months that needed a complete reboot right from the beginning. If you can just pick up and go great if you are struggling maybe a reboot from the beginning. Do what feels right for you both. Foundations can never be strong enough right? I dont know if any of this helps. I hope your feeling better and dont over do to much to quickly
Hugs
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This happens to us every year! During the Holidays we slowly fall off track due to how busy the season is. Then immediately after starts the rush to begin preparations for the huge community event that Sir and I both volunteer for. He is a board member and I am a committee chair. Even though we are both volunteering for the same event, we constantly run in opposite directions due to us having a completely different set of duties. At times we feel more like roommates who only see each other in passing. This ends the first weekend in February. Then, just by chance, Sir has a business trip every in mid February. Fortunately, for the past few years I have been able to attend with him. This time together without the kids or any of our volunteer obligations really helps. Perhaps what you need is a weekend away? If that’s not possible, create a “getaway” at home. Sir and I are notorious for having a “fake vacation” by staying the weekend in our camper which is in the driveway. Our kids are old enough to be just fine inside the house by themselves overnight. The teenagers know where to find us (and to knock!) if one of the younger kids wakes up in the night. I will spend the day before cleaning the camper and making it warm and inviting. Pillows, candles, mood music from one of our BDSM playlists, drinks, snacks, TOYS and after care comfort items. Hope that helps!
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Thankyou Yozakura for your suggestion. Sir and I also put on a business conference it is every other year but so consuming that we end up way off track. Because this conference is in November we usually wait it out through the holidays and start from scratch in the new year. But that is more months and time spent unhappy, waiting. As this is the year for us to host the conference again. We have put downtime a priority with the intent to keep it up throughout the craziness of planning in the hope of keeping on track. I think I will discuss with Sir the possibility of planning a weekend away shortly after so we could regroup sooner. I found alot of inspiration in your post. Thank you again
Jsbunny
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