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Parapluie…but you can call me Para
Hi Ladies, I thought I would take this quiet time in the chat rooms (cause you know I am there all the time…hehehe) to come up to this forum and properly introduce myself. I am Parapluie (French for Umbrella). I have been married to my middle school sweetheart, Mr. G8tr on HusDom, for 25 years but we have been together 32. We have 4 kids ages 23, 20, 18, and 16. We live in Oregon although G8tr works most of the time in Cali. We have been D/s since day one. I don’t remember a time when we weren’t. This amount of time does not make us an expert at D/s-M, it just means I have a very happy marriage. We are constantly learning or being reminded everyday of something in our relationship that could use a little lift, magic, effort, or attention. We never stop working at it. Because we were so young, we obviously didn’t start in the bedroom. G8tr was born a dominant. We didn’t know what to call what we were doing. We didn’t have the words to describe what we felt. He claimed me as His early in the relationship and we began instituting rules and rituals right away. Many around us thought G8tr was controlling and domineering. He was accused of being abusive and whipped at the same time. No one understood the freedom I felt under his protection. No one understood the safety I felt with rules in place. No one understood how beautiful I felt under his laser focus on me. But we didn’t care. Those around us would hurl insults and question our methods. We knew that this is the lifestyle we wanted and we were willing to walk away from those that didn’t support us. This meant losing friends…and family…along the way. We were fine with that. We still are. Through the years, G8tr and I would search the terms loosely around “wifely submission” in the computer occasionally and mostly be directed to wholesome religious sites. Recommendations to never cut your hair, wear long sleeve clothing and only skirts, and go to church twice a week were always in the mix. We tried it. It wasn’t for us. We wanted to find a home where we belonged. Kink and all. We wanted somewhere G8tr could flex his dominance and I could submit in a way that was true to ourselves. We continued our D/s lifestyle without real direction or mentorship. Organically growing it where it needed to be over the years. Constantly tending to it like a garden in paradise. Our commitment to each other and our love allowed us to make mistakes, take a step back, and start again. Our passion for each other allowed for forgiveness and healing when things got out of hand. Early last year, we finally searched the right term….”married submission” and subMrs and HusDom came up and we have never looked back. We wished we had had a site like LK’s and Mr. Fox’s when we were starting out. God, that would have been so much easier to have had a roadmap!!!! But we are fortunate that LK and Mr. Fox have put their good faith in us to share our stories of success and failure to make other couples more successful in their journey of D/s-M. We love being ambassadors on the site and talk about it everywhere we go. When asked by Vanilla’s what I do, I tell them, “I am a volunteer ambassador on a niche lifestyle website supporting married couples to fulfill their wildest dream……oh and I like to post a lot of porny pictures.” hehehe
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Thank you for sharing your beautiful and uplifting story! These words–“No one understood how beautiful I felt under his laser focus on me”–really resonated with me. Your story of how you’ve always been D/s and how you have a happy marriage are truly inspiring. Your beautiful words have given me hope!
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