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When Your Dom Just Isn't In The Mood
Fellow Subbies,
During a recent conversation, my wife (my dom), said she needed help with “knowing what to do when she isn’t in the mood for a needy sub”. I was hoping you all might have some ideas or experience or, even better, perhaps you could inquire with your Sirs on what they do when a needy subbie buzzing around him isn’t exactly what the doctor ordered today?
This topic has come up before and I have suggested the following :
Assigning projects or tasks – examples could include organizing the closet, clean the bathrooms, wash and wax my car, rearrange the bedroom (I want a shelf here and the furniture this way, etc), clean and sanitize all of my toys and organize them neatly.
All of these take a while and get me out of her hair for a long time but still keeps the D/s dynamic and feeling alive.
Previously, she has said “I’m busy right now, Kneel here beside me, facing away from me. Be still and quiet.”
Simple, effective, and I was happy to kneel quietly while she toiled away on her laptop.
So I let her know that those seemed to work for her in the past and that I enjoyed being given the opportunity to follow her direction instead of being told “I’m not in the mood right now” or being ignored.
Any other thoughts on the topic or input from your Doms that you could share?
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I don’t have any suggestions for you, but just wanted to say that the ideas that you’ve posted here sound like a good solution, especially since you know they work. I’ve just not had any experience with this issue…maybe someone else has some experience with this topic and can give you more ideas. I really just wanted to let you know that we are here to subport you any way we can!
Smooches,
V
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