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D/s-M Boot Camp
Since the kids got out of school in early June, Sir and I have been so extremely busy, we feel like two ships passing in the night. Next week we both just happen to have a break from all of our volunteer commitments AND it just happens to be the same week that all 4 kids will be gone to church camp. With no kids in the house and no obligations beyond our jobs, Sir and I are hoping to make next week our own “D/s-M boot camp. I have been making time to journal every day this week so that I don’t forget the things that I want to discuss during downtime (our ritual is for Sir to start our downtime by reading my journal). What are everyone’s thoughts on how we can make the most of our time together? How can I feed his Dom in a new way? What would you do if you haven’t had alone time with your Sir in forever and wanted to get your dynamic back on track? I would appreciate any ideas you ladies may have.
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Yozakura, I am hoping others reply to this as well. My Sir and I are in a similar situation. We have had a lot going on and it feels like our D/s lifestyle is taking a pause. I hate this! I planned to start a morning ritual of kneeling to start the day off but I have not been consistent. The few times I have done this, my Sir really appreciated it. I’m looking forward to a week long trip we are taking all alone.
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Maybe both of you try making a list of the top two or three things you have missed the most? Maybe they will even match up. Then at least you have a starting point.
One of the things we like to do during these rare times is turn ALL control over to him. We only do it for these short periods since obviously it can’t be maintained under normal daily circumstances, but it helps to give us a reboot. It also helps me to get back into the mindset that I can slip out of so easily when the vanilla world takes over.
I find I miss it when the reboot time ends. -
You can both make a list of topic to explore during this time. Sir and I did this during our kid free staycation. It was really interesting to see Sir’s topics.
Have some great impact play sessions or scenes. You can be as loud as you can now; well mind the neighbors if you have those.
Be naked around the house. I had a nice night or two of just laying about naked with my kitty tail and ears while the kids were gone.
The main thing though; enjoy each other and feed each other and your roles during this time. -
Just a thought… if you have never filled out a limits checklist, it is a great conversation starter. Maybe you’ll find some things you both want to explore that you had never even thought of. Truth be told, there were a few things on the list that we had to look up! LOL
Maybe a trip to the toy store together too?
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Update:
Yesterday was day 1 with the house to ourselves. Sir instructed me to eat breakfast (I got in trouble when he found out that I had been skipping) and text him my daily to-do list by 8:00 am for approval. These are things that I normally do anyway, but he’s cracking down with the kids away. He then instructed me to finish the list before 1:00 pm and then relax until it was time to start dinner. I was told to be wearing “something skimpy” and that I should be creative in determining what that means. I had my entire list done by noon and I got another text from Sir instructing me to put in “his” set of Ben Wa balls. (He calls the ones that vibrate and have a remote control his.) He told me when to turn them on, what setting, and when to turn them off. We got me pretty worked up for being so far away at work. Inot my “free time” I asked if shopping without kids was allowed for my relaxation time and Sir said yes. Getting to walk through stores without one kid being embarrassed to be with us and constantly rolling his eyes, one kid asking for everything, one kid melting down because we aren’t in the toy section, and the fourth crying that he has to pee was pure bliss! I got some good ideas for my “skimpy outfits” that Sir wants me to wear all week and a few extra goodies to go along with Sir’s birthday presents that I ordered. His birthday will be on Thursday when it’s just the two of us! I got home just in time to put everything away, start dinner, and get working on my outfit. I took a pair of old jeans I had laying around and laid them on the floor with a pair of boy shorts style panties on top for a guide, then cut them WAY short. I’m talking cheeks hanging out the bottom short. Then I sewed eyelet lace around the cut edge of the leg holes. I paired it with a red gingham blouse with short puffy sleeves and purposely left it unbuttoned so that my lace bra showed. Then I curled my hair and put it in pigtails, added a red bow, slid on my patent leather red vintage pumps and put on lipstick to match. I looked like Mary Ann from Gilligan’s Island only slutty. (Sir shared with me once that this was a fantasy of his.) Ask is part of my regular rules, when his truck pulied in the driveway, I met him at the door with a cold drink. I had a large glass of beer per his request in a frosted mug. He didn’t even notice the beer! He told me several times “don’t lose that outfit”. After dinner he wanted to watch anime which I hate. He sat in our double wide recliner chair and told me to lay across his lap so that my head rested comfortably on the arm rest and my butt was on his lap to play with. I was so at ease that I fell asleep! Sir thought it was cute and let me sleep just watching me (and his show) while rubbing the booty. When I woke up he took a shower and told me to get ready for bed. When he came into the bedroom all naked and freshly showered, I couldn’t help myself. I begged to give him a BJ and of course he said yes! Afterwards Sir drifted off to sleep muttering “good girl” over and over. I had a hard time falling asleep between the nap on Sir’s lap and the fact that I was still horny and had already sucked Sir dry. Oh well. That just means that I have to be extra good today!
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