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Our first foray into the world of kink
Last night Sir and I ventured out into a kink club for the first time. Overall, it was a positive learning experience, although we will probably not return to that particular group.
We were drawn to this particular event because there was a Shibari class being offered as part of Kinky Tuesdays at a local nightclub. We have been to this venue before and we didn’t have to be members, or be vetted prior to participating so that was a very non-threatening way for us to enter the scene. However, there was conflicting information from the club, the Kinky Tuesdays group, and the Shibari presenter about the start time of the event. We arrived at 9:05 since the club and the Kinky Tuesdays page both stated that doors open at 9:00. When we walked in, we saw two people warming up with a flogger and a bullwhip on the stage, and there were 3 St. Andrews Crosses and two suspension sets already in place. We thought “Great! We’re in the right place, we are just the first to arrive.” A few other people wandered in and mostly kept to themselves.
About an hour later, the organizer of the Kinky Tuesdays event and his female companion came over and introduced themselves to us. They were very welcoming and friendly but did not observe D/s protocols (The male shook my hand and spoke directly to me, the female gave us both unsolicited hugs, etc.) We just rolled with it because we didn’t want to seem unfriendly or arrogant. It didn’t upset us, but it did indicate to us that this was not specifically a D/s crowd. During our conversation, we learned that the Shibari class begins BEFORE the club opens to the public, and had been going on for an hour at that point, so we missed out.
There were many types of kink represented, but the crowd seemed to be predominantly young, single, and goth. Don’t get me wrong; I love goths. This is exactly the crowd I’d have hung out with 25 years ago. But this is not my tribe anymore. In fact there were very few couples, and none that made it clear through attire, demeanor, or body language that one person was a Dominant and the other was a submissive. Around 11 pm, the Shibari presenters did an onstage demonstration and had two young women trussed up and hanging from the ceiling in a variety of different poses. This was definitely the most interesting part of the evening. We may return the next time a Shibari class is being held, but our next attempt at socializing will be at a munch for one of the larger groups.
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Staci
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