Thank you all so much for your replies! I have gained some insight from all of them. A few things come to mind to reply.
Mrs. Blue Eyes: No punishments? So when you make a mistake that you knew was a mistake, there are no spankings or loss of privilege?
Staci: We have known each other for almost 21 years (met when I was 15) and have engaged in alternative sexual lifestyles off and on the whole time, including orgies back in high school. We have experimented with various power exchange dynamics fairly frequently throughout our relationship. So this isn’t entirely new to us.
I don’t feel like he is “prone to making mistakes” in general. Overall, he takes his role EXTREMELY seriously, and seems to feel very honored by my submission to him. And we have a rule that I can invoke “spousespace” whenever I need a break or need to talk to him about something that falls outside the purview of TTWD.
We are going to discuss a contract. At the very least, we have a lot of details to hammer out about boundaries and expectations before we proceed with collaring. The thing is, while it’s not entirely new, a lot of the fine details are, and we keep running into things that we weren’t expecting.
Puddingpop: Thank you for your reply. My Sir, as well, takes any mistakes he makes very hard, as he knows that they have the potential to have serious repercussions (I am a sexual abuse survivor and also have mental health issues). Sometimes I feel bad taking him to task, but he actually is grateful that I can still stand up for myself when I need to. I am glad to hear that things will feel a little less intense later on in regards to this.
Overall, the last couple of weeks have been some of the most liberating and amazing in my life. I couldn’t stand the thought of going backwards now. I was just curious how others handled it when the Dom was the one who made the mistake.