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Empowering Master
I hate to admit this, but there was a long time in my marriage where sex wasn’t an option. I was in severe depression, untreated and in denial.
This went on for years.
The last time my husband went on deployment I faced my demons and realized that I needed help. I started counseling and medication and started to address some of the major issues I was having.
When he came home I had been on meds for one month and in counseling. He told me he wanted a divorce. He was distant. Kept saying it wasn’t about anything I did or didn’t do. He just wanted to be alone. His deployment had not gone well and he was pulling away.
We went to counseling together. Mended things as we could… but we were still broken.
I was better, I was sexual, I was interested. He was not. If I initiated he would accept, but never did he pursue me. We fought. He wasn’t back in the marriage to me. To him he was protecting his heart from the constant rejection.
With D/s I feel wanted again. He is empowered and pursues me with rabid tenacity. It’s amazing. I told him it was my favorite part of the new dynamic we are building. Each time he initiates intimacy it builds my confidence in our relationship. He is empowered to be dominating sexually and the cycle builds cascades into a fiery passionate exchange.
We went from having intimate time 20 times a year (and I never really wanted too, I just felt bad) to having it daily, multiple times.
This has saved us. Nothing is sexier than being wanted. Now we both know we are wanted.
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I love your story. It is amazing what this dynamic can do for a marriage.
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