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What saved my marriage.
About this time (Easter) 3 years ago I told my husband that I couldn’t see us being together anymore. We just hit our 7 year marriage and had been together 10. I wasn’t happy. He worried more about work then me and bills more than the kids. We disconnected greatly. I now realize a lot of that was me pushing away. We had lost all connection. We just wound up ( feeling like) roommates who maybe once a week would be intimate. We cared for the kids together and house work but it just wasn’t there. About a month later(May 13) I sent Sir a letter. I told him the things I wanted. The things I felt I needed from him. This lifestyle. At one point in our relationship we were very much vanilla with a twist. We just never got further. I got pregnant with our first and we were so young. He dove into work i dove into mommy hood. I am a stay at home mom. So being 24 it was hard. I was left alone home with the kid while he got to go out and be with grown ups. (not just work) Don’t get me wrong we were happy. He is a good man a good person. He always has a tendency of helping others first even at the stake of our family and relationship. So when he paid more attention to others before our marriage I just went deeper into myself and pushed harder away. I couldn’t imagine losing my kids so i stayed he’s a good man he has always done right by me. So two more kids later and I had enough I couldn’t bare to be so lonely for the rest of my life. I couldn’t. I am a hopeless romantic. That hole was getting bigger. I am sorry I am rambling on lol…
And over the next year was good we learned things and got closer. Then I got pregnant again with our 4th. It was like a switch went off. He closed down not knowing what to do with me. He was so scared of hurting me. The last kid was hard on my body. We have not gotten to the emotional connection. We fell apart again. Then 50 shades came along in our life we read or listened to it together and talked about all the things we liked and didn’t like.
So here we are now, We stared really putting an effort in again. And it’s only been in the last 6 months to a year that we have reach so many levels. I am not talking about the sex, yes of course it’s better then ever. I recently have come to the realization that when I first asked for this I thought it was just kinky sex I wanted. But that’s not it at all. I crave that connection we have all the time. It’s like he’s always there in my mind. In my heart. We have way more of a mental, emotional connection that is so hard to put in words. He’s like a drug I can’t get enough. We still have so far to go. And so much to learn. I know this particular site didn’t save my marriage (but helped tremendously) but this life style has.If it wasn’t for SubMrs and Husdom we would have been lost and probably gave up. I am so happy I spoke up I am so grateful for my Sir, My husband and family. I know we could never go back. I can’t wait to see what the next chapter in our journey is going to be like. -
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I am glad that my site HELPED. Your story is not so different then mine and thousands of other members here on my site. Many of us hidden submissives out there! EMAIL OR PM me here on the site with any questions.
HUGS! LK
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Beautiful story . Almost exactly like ours. Not only saved our marriage but we are deeper in love now than the day we got married . Thank you for sharing.
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Thank you for sharing..just starting out but hoping for the same 🙂
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