• EMBARRASSING but wonderful DT with my Sir.

    Posted by thatsmygirl on at

    Some on the Warren chat may have seen me asking about how to approach our first DT. Firstly I guess it wasn’t a proper DT as we have only been learning for a week… But it helped so much as we aired a lot on what we want or don’t want, how things will work and how much the D/s relationship will affect our vanilla lives. I talked through what it means to me to serve him and how I know it will make us stronger as a couple and that it is more than just kinky sex, it can be if that’s all he wants, I won’t force him but i feel it should be more. He loves bdsm porn and clearly thought that was all there was to it so I explained the service side, aftercare, the commitment needed from both of us and he was quiet but you could tell he was just taking it all in. OK now the embarrassing part… I cried so much!!! Maybe it’s letting go, opening up to him, or just my inability to put thoughts into words but wow it was embarrassing. But weirdly freeing at the same time? We had a cuddle and he said all was fine he is going to sign up with Mr Fox and do some reading and we will sit down again soon and he can see how he feels about it all. Then we had a giggle about how me talking about things was making him hard and that he was trying his best to be serious and had yet more amazing sex. Thanks so much for all the advice… Slowly does it!!!

    meaux replied 8 years ago 3 Members · 2 Replies
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  • Unknown Member

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    HUGS ! TMG , You were very BRAVE to take this step !! Sounds like everything is MOVING !!

    Hearts, ‘
    CURVEY

  • meaux

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    I think it sounds like a right proper downtime. Especially for getting started! Remember to keep the communication flowing as you and he progress farther into this exploration together. Hope to get to chat with you soon!

    I assume you’ve read this, but just in case:
    https://submrs.com/downtime-ds-married-lifestyle/

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