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Swinging/Swapping
So Sir and I recently decided to visit an adult only, clothing optional, lifestyle friendly resort. (Sir and I have been Married 25yrs but Ds-M only 5 months and this was something on our bdsm checklist as something to try, something Sir wanted to try, I was a bit Leary before we started doing all the foundational steps here on submrs because I had cheated very early on in our marriage, but I gave Sir what he desired) Our first visit was mid July. We didn’t know what to expect nor did we know if we’d participate in any swinging either. But our first night we met a group, partied with them and ended up swapping with on couple but we were also together the entire time, I was actually somewhat involved with him and the other woman the entire time. I even had sex with Sir as she sat on his face. A fantasy for him. Safe sex is highly promoted, condoms! Condoms! Condoms!
-I wasn’t impressed by the other guy and didn’t even cum at all, even after Sir and I got back to our camper and had sex with each other…. ?
The second night we didn’t plan on playing with the same group but ended up there anyway. We watched a scene between two women in the small dungeon there. The woman from the couple we played with seemed to really like Sir, too much, and I knew Sir was bigger than her man, I had a lot of feelings of jealousy at this time, I may have shared for a moment in time but he is MINE, MINE, MINE! when we when back to their cabin to play, Sir sensed I was having an issue, so we ended up not swapping and just had sex together, then got up, got our clothes and Walked back to our camper. Not even saying goodbye.
We didn’t swap numbers or anything to ensure no contact after we leave.This visit the first night we only played by ourselves, public play… Sir had me pleasure myself in a chair in front if the camper and said I couldn’t have his cock till I made myself cum. Then he had me pleasure him. After we took it inside, just us. The second night we ended up partying and hooking up with a couple that we met briefly the first time we visited. One of the people we met the first time had introduced us and told us they were into bdsm as well. This visit they approached us, talked to us some in the pool then again at the Saturday night party. I thought she was cute and he wasn’t bad to look at either. Both bigger people than us. She spoke to Sir about hooking up, they apparently usually go off separate and I told Sir I wasn’t comfortable with that I wanted to stay together. If we are together, to me everything is consensual but if we go off separate it would feel like cheating. Sir agreed and they said they were ok with that. We went back to our camper. Sir and her on the bed and her husband and I on the couch. After they left Sir and I then sat down and talked about it. We I liked ect, he asked me questions and I answered as honestly as I could. We also had sex with each other again after this. In the morning on the ride home (2hr drive) we talked even more. I think I enjoyed this experience more than Sir, unlike the first experience, which made me feel very guilty. Even though Sir says I shouldn’t cause he was doing the same thing. He even watched at times and it aroused him, he said I was a good girl.
This couple are members there and said they are there every weekend. So I’m not for sure if or when we will go back. Probably at least not till next May, and who knows where we will be at that time. Even without the swinging it’s a very nice friendly relaxing atmosphere.
It’s funny, when with someone else you compare to what you have. Sir wants to give me something bigger/better than him, but he doesn’t really realize I already have the best. After these 2 experiences I’m more convinced than ever.
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So after a week of knowing there was more going on in Sirs head than he was letting on we did talk a little more last night. I’ve noticed a change in him, actually for the better. Through this last experience Sir learned or his eyes were really opened to how much I need and enjoy that dominate confident man, as the people we swapped with were into bdsm. It wasn’t the act that was appealing to me as that was just so/so, but the conversation, the edge, the direction, the intrigue of how pain affected me and how he pushed to see where my limits might be. Sir took notice and it, in a sense woke him up to what I’ve been asking of him, and he then decided to really put forth the effort that I’d been dying for him to put into this Ds. Truely finding his Dom. This week I have worked tues – thurs, so I’ve not been home much and he’s had several hours each evening home alone. He’s been using this time to work on learning how to be a better Dom, by reading the books I has bought him, looking at internet sites ect. I’m not sure if he’s been looking on husdom or fet, but I know he’s been researching like he’s never done before. He’s also been watching videos as well, on rope and flogging apparently. So, even though I’m not SURE about swapping, or even threesomes, I’m still willing to give Sir what he desires and I’m actually happy that this last encounter actually brought out a jealously of sorts in Sir, like I got with our first attempt when were played with the same couple twice. He saw what I saw or felt and it encouraged him to make some changes that I’d been asking for. I think that he finally saw that I was serious about that things that I was wanting/talking about and needed and that it was truly important to me and not just something I’ve been talking about or fad.
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