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Laying Foundations- Rules and Punishments
Hello I have started this thread to create a space where we can post our thoughts, experiences or questions about the creation of rules and punishments at the beginning of the D/s journey. Nearly 8 weeks into D/s Sir and I are getting closer to understanding and defining how we want our D/s to go initially. But that leads us to what rules do we create and how I am to be punished for breaking them, and are some rules not to be punished? I don’t have answers quite yet but we will soon. What I can tell you are what are my basic rules. Newbies “* Do not make too many rules keep it simple “”
My basic rules are currently:
Do appropriate exercise and take my pain medication
Drink lots more water and eat healthily Kneeling ready for my Sir to put my collar on
Being disrespectful.
Cheekiness that could be construed as Flirting
Swearing at my SirPunishments include
Spankings ( hands or tools)
Denial of sex or orgasms
Food injustice ( go without/ watch Sir eat something i like)
Hands tied
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Ok, I am here. Yay. These were my first thoughts.
Sent to bed early (with no phone or ipad) I would really hate that. Although I am not sure if I would sleep. But I need to do that more, so it would work there too, lol
Taking phone/ipad – that would really annoy me
Cleaning a room, pfft. I hate cleaning.
Surrendering my ATM card for a period of time.
Sitting in the corner for 30 mins (or whatever time seems appropriate).
And then I am stuck… I struggle to put in sex stuff. It would make me angry, no repentant I think.
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Thanks for starting this LB.
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We haven’t got as far as setting rules yet, but I am hoping for some soon. At the minute my Boss is focusing on making me fitter and leaner. He has been doing weekly inspections and wants to know what I have done on the exercise front. So far I have been a good girl so no punishments, but I can’t see that lasting now the new term has started and we are back in the school run routine.
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I have a few standing Rules:
I must drink 2 liters of water every day – I haven’t slipped up so haven’t been punished
I must have lunch every day – I’ve gotten the eyebrow once for forgetting once and a warning
I must do my back exercises & Stretches every day – Haven’t slipped up yet
10 minute Daily meditation on my submission – I never miss one, they help immensely and the center me. I started with 5 minutes, they are increasing. It also helps me increase my “stamina” for prolonged kneeling
Must be respectful – I’ve slipped up here which has earned me a spanking.
I’m not allowed to swear, except within a scene or play – I have slipped up here and I get 3 warnings and then a spanking.We haven’t really needed to create punishments yet. Although we have been looking at the concept of a punishment box. It is basically a box with cards with various cards inscribed with punishments. In the event that I transgress I would then choose a card while blindfolded. We are toying with the idea of having me create the punishment cards while aroused. Sir would then review them and approve them, should I create a card with something that couldn’t be considered a punishment, it would then need to be correct in whichever way Sir deems appropriate.
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Hi Pet-
I really like the concept of incorporating healthy things like water, regular meals, exercise/stretching and meditation into your rules because they are great habits for longterm health.Would be curious to learn more about your back exercises/stretches. My back has been acting up and I’m trying to get it under control 🙂
Thanks for sharing!
june
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Great topic, LadyBird!
My basic rules include:
– Make time for Sir to shave His pussy when He’s home
– Wear nipple rings 3 hours a day (I usually wear longer because I don’t think to take them off lol)
– Love balls worn each day – one ball for 4 hours, two balls for 3 hours
– Fresh linens on bed the day Sir comes home from a trip
– Respectful tone (texting included lol)
– Tasks as assigned (Sir usually assigns things like reading, writing, videos, etc. when He is on the road and it helps me stay mindful of my submission. It is also an opportunity to serve Him long distance.)Punishment:
– spankings (not allowed to orgasm during punishment spanking)
– butt plug (Sir uses this when He’s on the road and I’ve been disrespectful)
– nipple clamps (again, used when Sir’s on the road)My daily/weekly tasks will be increasing soon and will include exercise and stretching along with a few other things – I’m just not entirely sure what He has in mind.
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June,
Thanks for the ideas. You mentioned nipple rings-true rings? Are you pierced? If so, how long and did it cause reduced sensation/pleasure of your nipples (after the healing of course). Also, what are Love balls?
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Hey Bliss-
You’re welcome! I like that Mr. Ward thinks things through and takes a positive approach to discipline. My nipples are not pierced and while I think they’re sexy, I don’t see us having it done. To say I’m squeamish when it comes to needles is a MAJOR understatement! LOL We use a nipple erector set (do a search on Adam & Eve’s site) and they keep my nipples sensitive and perky 🙂Our love balls are by Fun Factory and I think the correct name is really smart balls. They are a pelvic floor training device and come in singles or doubles. We like the ones by Fun Factory because of the ergonomic design and the material they are made of does not irritate the skin. We also have some musical balls Mr. Ward picked up in Japan and they are beautiful but are heavier. The Fun Factory balls are lighter and I started out wearing one ball and have worked up to wearing the double balls for an extended amount of time. They are slippery when wet so if aroused, it becomes much more challenging to keep those muscles contracted around them LOL
Hope this helps 🙂
june
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