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New & Overwhelmed!
Hi all! Brand new here after reading some blog articles with my … he actually doesn’t have a title yet, nothing has get natural yet, on husDOM. Trying to figure out the platform and forums but this is all new to me. I don’t even know if this is going to end up in the right place.
I am looking forward to learning and growing with my partner. We have been married 6 1/2 years and have 3 kids together. We are located on the East Coast and I welcome any and all advice suggestions or help traversing the site.
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Hi trittlet. Welcum to subMrs! <div> You’re right, it CAN seem a little overwhelming at first. There is a TON of great information here, but the best thing is that you are now a member of a very subportive community, with amazing mentors available to answer questions and help guide you to where you want to go, AND a founder who really does want you to succeed in your dynamic.
If you haven’t already checked them out, start with the foundations. It’s the best place to begin.
Again, WELCUM!
https://submrs.com/foundation/
https://submrs.com/submissive-tools/
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Starting Your Foundation, Wiping the Slate & Climbing the Ladder in a D/s-Married Dynamic
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Thank you! I have checked out a lot of the intro material, I think I was hoping for more of a how-to jumping off point. I’m just not sure where to start, and neither is he so it’s just confusion and some frustration as we both try to navigate it all.
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Girl..... lemme tell you.. it’s not an easy thing.. check out “submissive tools”.. great article.. and listen to the sub frenzy podcast. (I’ve listened to it 3x to slow my roll)a fun one is a limits list (there’s one in resources).
We are super new to the lifestyle. I just brought it to my sir in June.
He was sooo afraid to come off as a misogynist.. So I started asking.. a simple rule we started with was whether he wanted undergarments when we go out (not work, etc).. it gave him an opportunity to “boss me around”..
there’s another article in here about a timeline.. She mentioned the first 2 years are the learning phase.. this helped me settle in a little more…
having yours on husDom will help too since some stuff relates back & forth for us. LK often links the husDom related articles for reading & sharing with your sir..
oh & discord.. there’s a little more activity there too..
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Thanks! I’m finding it a little easier to maneuver around on a laptop vs. my phone (what I was using yesterday). I will look out for the podcast SB mentioned and do more exploring on the site and jump in some discussions and try to get a flow going. I appreciate both of your comments to make connections and get started.
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There are a lot of live zoom chats that you can join. You don’t have to show yourself or speak if you don’t feel comfortable, but they are a good place to get to know people and feel more comfortable chatting. Join as many as you want, and there is normally a new submissive chat each month that’s so helpful. All the events and chats are listed on the community calendar…that’s the place to go if you want to know what’s going on. And it changes occasionally as we add new things. So keep an eye on it!
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