New and Unsure where to start

New submissive Introduction

New and Unsure where to start

Posted by Jen Snyder on at

I recently asked my husband to be my dominant. He’s been researching and studying. I am confused and struggling to define our dynamic. We’ve set limits and have good discussions. Hoping to meet others that can help guide us.

MrsCC replied 1 year, 6 months ago 8 Members · 9 Replies
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SB-CA

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Wow, Jen. I think we’ve all been where you are. You have cum to the right place. This is an amazing community of submissives. We subport each other thru everything…the good, the bad, the ugly, and the amazing. Joining the conversations on the subMrs discord channel is a great place to talk with lots of other subs. And go to the calendar and join the chats whenever you can…especially the new sub chat that LK does each month. It will help you set up your foundations and know where to start. AND it’s a great place to “meet” other subs that you WILL connect and make friends with. You can talk with any of the team members any time and you can email LK@submrs.com if you need more personalized help.

Welcum to subMrs!!
- lpkitty
  
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  This is very interesting! I am new here and am struggling a bit using the community. I don’t understand how to use discord, or how to attach my account to it. And navigating this site to get more real time interaction. Do you know where I would go to get more instruction?
  - Kaninchen
    
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    Hello lpkitty!
    
    There are direct instructions on subMrs in the new member chatroom, the box at bottom left side, on how to join our Discord channel!
    
    You can also, Look to the right side of screen, the index card with the star, membership icon, then scroll to the bottom of the page, you will see the green box on how to join Discord.
    
    If all else fails…. Here is a video to help you as well!
    
    https://vimeo.com/608624175https://vimeo.com/608624175 (It’s to the husDOM site, but follow same instructions, as we have the same pages.)
    
    If you have anymore issues, let me know, lk@subMrs.com.
    
    Welcum to subMrs! Looking forward to chatting here and on DIscord.
    
    LK
subMarie-CSM

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Hi Jen! Welcum to our tribe!! Asking your sir to be your husDOM is such a special time. There are articles and a lot of discussion on this. LK and Mr. Fox termed this step as Formal Acceptance. I remember asking my Sir to take this journey with me. It was probably the most heartfelt conversation I had ever had with him up to that point. If you are feeling confused, I would recommend brainstorming what you think this dynamic could look like. This will be a journey. Take it very slow and enjoy the road. There will be some bumps in the road along the way but as long as you and your Sir are focused on the trip you will have an amazing ride! Be sure to also search “Downtime” and set this up. I hope to see you in our Discord channel and on our live Zoom chats!
lady-aristocrat

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Hello – brand new member today. I see that there is a monthly chat for new people to get us started, but it was yesterday, so I missed it. Are there good articles within submrs? I’ve been poking around, but seeing discussions. Anyone have some links to some great outside resources to get me started? Thanks!
- SB-CA
  
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  Hi lady. There are LOTS of great articles on site. You can search anything and there is probably an article or discussion about it. But to get you started, here are a couple tlyou might want to start with.
  
  https://submrs.com/how-to-begin-ds-m/https://submrs.com/how-to-begin-ds-m/
  
  https://submrs.com/foundation/https://submrs.com/foundation/
  
  https://submrs.com/how-to-ask-for-dominance-and-submission/https://submrs.com/how-to-ask-for-dominance-and-submission/
  
  Also, make sure to check out the calendar frequently. Chats and holidays are posted monthly. Please join us for any of the chats. It’s a great place to see some of the other subs and get to know people.
  
  Welcum to subMrs!!
  - MrsCC
    
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    These links do not seem to work. I also searched for that blog post but 167 showed up on the results. I’m still not sure where to start.
- Kaninchen
  
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  Welcum to subMrs! The BEST MONOGAMOUS Dominance and Submission Communities! I added a couple more… But there are several how to get started articles in the blog! Enjoy!
  
  https://submrs.com/phases-of-married-dominance-and-submission-phase-1-the-honeymoon/https://submrs.com/phases-of-married-dominance-and-submission-phase-1-the-honeymoon/
  
  https://submrs.com/how-to-ask-for-dominance-and-submission/https://submrs.com/how-to-ask-for-dominance-and-submission/
wench-Mentor-buck

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Welcome 🙂 I skimmed the responses that have already been given and totally agree. 🙂 Take your time and enjoy the journey- some days will be better than others. Communication is so important- Downtimes, just asking questions and getting/giving answers.

Has your husband connected to husDOM yet? I would imagine there is a ton of information for him (like we have ton on info for you)

Again- welcome and enjoy the journey down the rabbit hole with us 🙂

💋 Wench