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Calling Him Sir?
How often do you call your Sir, Sir? In public? Around others? Only in certain situations?
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I call Sir as much as I can. I truly think it makes him feel strong, builds him up and helps keep us in the dynamics. We are empty nesters so, at home always. I have found in vanilla world. I can call him. Mr. And his first name. …..most people just good with it
Smiles Curveysub
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I call Sir, Sir as much as possible as well. If I am addressing him, I have simply replaced “babe” or “hun” with Sir. Of course, not every situation allows for it, but now Sir knows that in my head, I am still referring to him as Sir. I do call him Sir in public and around our kids…but have yet to do so in front of friends or other family members. It is just really natural now.
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I called him Sir the other day at Home Depot….made me giggle and Him smile!
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We’re almost 2 months in and He’s still kind of Meh over the Sir thing. He’s asked that in reply with Sir when asked a question but other than that He says it really doesn’t matter to Him.
I guess that’s a big leap from me calling him Sir at all is awkward which is how it started out lol
I call him Sir at other times when it just feels natural but not often
Just wondering what everyone else did.
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We started pretty much the same way, as your dynamic gets stronger so too will your need to call him Sir. Let it happen naturally and you will both fall into step … He will eventually need it as much as you do! 🙂
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Our dynamic is DD/lg so I call him Daddy at his request — though it took a while for me to feel comfortable doing so. I also use Sir which is what we started out using. We are a year into our D/s so it feels very strange to use his given name now but I have to be careful that Daddy doesn’t slip out in public. When we’re with vanilla friends and family I use “My Love” which is the term we chose to use in front of company to keep within the dynamic and not revert back to vanilla ways. Daddy calls me kitten or baby girl all the time whether we are alone or in the vanilla world and rarely uses my given name. People think it’s cute and don’t know it is D/s. I did make the mistake of accidentally texting a message meant for Daddy to my girlfriend — luckily she knows we’re DD/lg and she just laughed! I agree with nijntje, do what feels right for both of you now T.T. — as your dynamic evolves so may the way you address each other. We feel that using our D/s names is very meaningful for us to keep us grounded in our dynamic but it might not be so important for others. Give it some thought and consider discussing it with your Sir during downtime. That’s how we determiend what would work best for us. If it is important for you then let your Sir know — he might not realize it is something you want to do to deepen your submission and reinforce your dynamic. I’m sure you’ll figure out what works best for your dynamic.
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In the beginning he really was uncomfortable with being addressed as Sir and that made it harder for me to use the term as I felt I was putting pressure on him to embrace this dynamic so instead I would usually just use his given name but with eye contact when I said his name. As time progressed I would slip it in more frequently, definitely during sex and more and more outside of the bedroom. Over time he has become much more comfortable with it and has grown into the title of Sir, he now demands(hurray) I call him Sir in the bedroom and we are finding the balance of when to use Sir outside of the bedroom. We work together and so we use our given names whenever we discuss work or money related matters but try to use our D/s titles the rest of the time. It has taken us a year to find our path but it is working for us. Every dynamic is different but patience is the key. Good luck with your journey TT, wishing you fun exciting times ahead. xx
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Thank you all for sharing. I love hearing everyone’s journey.
Oddly enough the other day during text he told me I hadn’t been Siring Him enough that day (we text during the day) so I went back and looked and I had actually Sir’d Him after every question so I decided to start using Sir more liberally since He was looking for more.
Last night at DT He told me He would like me to Sir him more often and during DT Weds night He’ll discuss how it makes Him feel and if He wants me to continue using it more liberally.
He told me He noticed when I started calling Him Sir more often and instead of it making Him feel weird and awkward it made Him feel more respected and fed His Dom.
Total change lol but it makes me happy 🙂
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Never. My husband does not have an interest in the use of titles.
Saying, “yes, sir” in replies is a different thing. We were both raised and live in conditions where more formal politeness is common and expected.
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We have just started this around a month ago… Still learning… while at home I call him sir… but if anyone else is around then he wants sweetheart or baby. So I give him what ever he wants…
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OMG…I totally forgot about this thread and have got to share a funny story that goes with it!
Not long ago, Sir and I were at our neighbor’s house for his birthday party. It was loud with people talking. My neighbor’s wife asked me to ask Sir a question, and he was across the room…I called his name several times loudly with no response…I called babe, a bit louder several times with no response…finally a gave up and called SIR! He turned around and responded (with a bit of a confused look on his face). We laughed later when I explained that I had been trying to get his attention and the only time he responded was to SIR!
I guess it is just a part of who we are now! LOL
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LOL Veruca. It’s nice to know that I’m not the only one that has resorted to doing that. 😀 Although I have learned I cannot do that when we are with other D/s couples. They all turn. Kinda like calling Mom in a large crowd.
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