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advice please
hello I’m a new 24/7 sub and life has neelcer been so great. BamBam is slowly starting to get more “aggressive and dominant” instead of vanilla and letting me get away with a lot of things. I think a lot of our issues result from him having to work out of town all week on a first shift schedule and I’m on second shift schedule. Anyone have any advice on how to be a better sub to him while he is gone, and suggestions I could give BamBam to help us grow in this life. thanks in advanced!!
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Hi bambamslexi! Welcome to subMrs. If your Sir hasn’t already done so, I would recommend he join HusDom. He will get a lot of ideas and support there. I’m not in your situation but I know a lot of subbies deal with this same issue. subMrs has a lot of info. Check out the forum posts and hang out on chat. Everyone here is super subportive!
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thank you so much!
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Hi Lexi,
My Sir travels 50% of the month. In his absence, I am expected to uphold all of his normal standards. Two things we do that feed his dominance and make me feel his protective presence are that I have Life360 on my phone and he is able to see where I go all day and how fast I drove.
We also have multiple security cameras in our home so that he is able to check on me and our kids to make sure everyone is safe. I understand that this is rather extreme and not for everyone, but there is a camera in our bedroom. He frequently asks me to undress and/or perform sexual acts on camera. This really pushed my boundaries at first, but when I am challenged is when I truly feel my submission.
And last but not least, when he heads home I make sure that the house is clean and that there are clean sheets on the bed so that his home is a welcoming atmosphere.
Best of luck in your new journey!
Staci
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